Loss of my mum

Hi I’m kerry i sadly lost my mum on the 30th November 2021 and she lost her battle with cancer and pneumonia. I’m finding it hard at night going to sleep and having bad thoughts every night before bed. I was so close to my mum and I’m feeling sad everyday. We had my mum’s funeral on 21st December 2021. But since the funeral has gone I’m finding it hard to concentrate and focus everyday and feeling low.


Hi Kerry

I’m so sorry that you have lost your wonderful Mum. I too lost mine to cancer on 10th November. It’s a nasty demon isn’t it.

I know exactly how you’re feeling and I felt just like you after the funeral and I think it’s because your mind has been so focused on ensuring you do her proud that suddenly it’s all over. I felt extremely numb and drained of all energy in the days immediately after. How you’re feeling now is completely normal although that’s cold comfort late at night I know.

I just wanted you to know that I get it, I understand everything you have said. It’s so painful it’s crippling and is so amplified late at night and first thing but do try to sleep as you need your strength and you know your Mum would be cross if you weren’t looking after yourself. Not sure if reading is your thing it’s not mine so I listen to audio books and came across a book called “Things I wish I knew before my Mom died” by Ty Alexander. It’s free I think and you can get a 30 day trial with Amazon. It helped me to realise I wasn’t alone in my grief. As I say may not be for you but her Mum died of cancer and I could really relate to what she said.

Always here if you fancy a chat. I know how you feel and I feel your pain so much. Don’t rush anything, this is your grief and you can grieve in any way you feel like. Thinking of you xxx

Sal46 Thankyou. My mum was my worrier and you feel lost without her she was my best friend. Cancer is horrible I never thought my mum would never get it. I struggle sleeping at night I get bad thoughts which keep me up at night. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum it’s heartbreaking to hear.

Hi Kerry24,

I lost my mum on 13 Nov 2021 and feel the same. Each day is a fight to get things done.

It horrible isn’t it when you lose someone so close to you

It was me and her vs the world. Now I am lost

I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine how you feel. I was with my mum all the time except going to work

Me too. I’m so lost with her, everything I do requires so much effort

Same here. It’s so hard bust sometimes people don’t understand how you feel when losing someone

True, people think I can just move on now.

Exactly that

Sorry to hear about your mum I lost my mum 3 weeks ago due to cancer. Like you I was with my mum all the time part from when I was at work. I feel very lost aswell

I’m so sorry to hear about your mum sending hugs! My mum has been gone 5 weeks today and I still very upset and still getting bad thoughts at night. If you ever want to talk I’m here to listen

How do we go about doing that? Sorry, I’m very new at this

What do you mean?

Thank you same to you aswell x

I lost my mum and dad in 2017 and 2018 within months and it’s still very upsetting I don’t normally come these types of things it’s taken that long thinking I could do this without talking but I’ve made myself come on here to talk. I also went on a free counseling online chat which was really helpful it’s called (much loved .com) there very good people. And you can speak with them. Xmas is the hardest because it’s family time and then comes the drinking which makes things harder as u lose your self control and the next day u feel depressed with the hangover, am really sorry to hear about people’s problems on here but it’s also good that were not all alone.

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having a chat

I’m so sorry for your loss. My mum has been gone 5 weeks today.

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It’s the hardest thing ever keep your chin up things will get easier.