Loss of my Mum

Losing a parent
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My beautiful mum recently passed 3 weeks ago aged 58. She was diagnosed with cancer and died exactly 8 weeks later. In the last few weeks before her death she was extremely sick and as I still stay at home I was the one looking after her every day and every night. I am only 26 and I never thought I would have to live without my mum at this age. It all happened so fast and I’m really struggling to accept that I’ll never see her again or be able to hug her or talk to her. Being in the house without her is heartbreaking but I feel close to her in a way. I am still young and have a whole life ahead of me and knowing she won’t be here for my wedding day or when I have kids is really breaking me. I just want any advice that could help me accept the loss. People are telling me to go back to work and it’s frustrating me as I don’t feel ready to do this, I just really miss my Mum.

Thank you x

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Hello @KatieL98,

I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your mum that brings you here.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.

Another good resource to look at is Losing a parent.

Take care,

Alex

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Hi,

I’m not sure I will be any help, but I came across this post and it really resonated with me as I am in almost an identical situation. I lost my wonderful mum 4 days ago, and am struggling to come to terms with it all. She also died from cancer only 8 weeks after her initial diagnosis, aged only 62. I spent the last week staying in the hospital with her day and night. It all happened so fast I am still in shock and can’t quite believe she isn’t here any more.

I’m only 28, and the fact that she won’t meet any grandchildren, or be at my wedding is something that is really upsetting me. People say to remember the happy memories, but every time I think of a happy memory I just feel pain that she isn’t here now.

I echo your thoughts above, any advice on coming to terms with this sort of loss would be appreciated x

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Thank you for your reply,

I am so sorry you are going through something similar. 4 days is still so fresh so understandably you feel the way you do.

It’s extremely hard to accept as I’m nearly 4 weeks on and I still don’t think I have came to terms with the fact my mum isn’t here anymore.

I also completely understand where you’re coming from as it makes me angry and sad to think of any memories as it also just reminds me of the loss.

Something that helps me is as I’m still in the house I lived in with my mum, I still speak to her every day - “Morning Mum” or whatever you want to say, I also still text my mums number when I have something I want to tell her or just to say I miss her. It’s comforting.

I hope you find some comfort knowing you’re not alone x