Hi dont really know what to say really im new here but i lost my mum in October suddenly and unexpectedly i saw my mum on the Friday and she was fine her normal self then spoke to her Friday she wasnt feeling well so she said shes going to bed then i didnt hear from her again i tried ringing multiple times Saturday but want getting a reply but thats not unusual for my mum especially at the weekend her partner usually went round on the weekend but it got too sunday and still nothing so i went round i had a key and i found her in her bed passed away i phoned for help right away but it was to late she was only 50 i found out i was pregnant a few weeks before she died she was so excited to be having another grand child i already have 3 young children that she absolutely adored but then a week after her funeral i went for my 12 week scan and was told there was no heartbeat so i lost my mum and my baby in the space of a month, im just carrying on like normal for my children there 7. 5 and 4 so its hard for them too but inside im just in so much pain i have panic attacks on a daily basis ive got severe anxiety about everything its really getting to me anyone got any advice ive got a lot off family around me and an amazing partner but i just feel so alone
Hello @Chaar94 ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling in so much pain and experiencing severe anxiety. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum and the loss of your baby. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also find the following helpful
- Tommy’s support anyone with the loss of a baby. They have a helpline on 0800 0147 800 or email midwife@tommys.org. They also have a baby loss support Facebook group.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Hello. You arent alone. My mum passed away in December and im so lonely without her. Even though i have a wonderful husband and friends. I just feel lost like a little child again.
I hope you have a less painful day today or you at least see something beautiful that reminds you of good times.
I’m so so sorry for your losses. Sometimes, there are no more words. I just really feel for you.
Hi @Chaar94
I am so sorry for the loss of your mum and your baby. I too lost my mum suddendly and unexpectedly and i also found her dead at home. It is truly horrific, and i had anxiety afterwards. All i can say is im 11 months down the line now and things have got easier with time. I think i just went into automatic pilot to get through it all. Im sending you a hug as you need one