Loss of my mum

Losing a parent
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Hi my name is John, I’m a 63 year old male and lost my mum suddenly on New Year’s Eve.
I feel absolutely terrible, anxiety, depression, panic attacks.
I do not feel that I am coping?

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Hi @John61 ,

All sounds totally normal, and still very early days for you, I am 148 days since my mam passed & still very much the same, totally heartbroken without her

I has my last episode only yesterday in Home Bargains, all it took was to see the paper hankies I used to get her, tears, could’ve get my breathing under control, I left what I was going to buy & got back to the car, where I sobbed like a baby

I sometimes feel stupid when this comes over me, I am 64 years old for heavens sake!

I hope you some emotional support around you John, each out any time

Jean x

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Thanks for your message Jean, gives me hope and identification that I’m not alone.
I do have loving support.
Just sometimes feel I’m totally alone with these feelings.
Your message has helped me
Thank you, John

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Hi again @John61 ,

You are certainly not alone with your thoughts & feelings, geez if I had to go public with mine I’m sure I’d be sectioned for my own good!, I am still unable to talk about my mam without getting emotional

So pleased to hear you have loving support, it must help a great deal

So pleased my words have helped, however small

Take Care @John61

Jean x

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I totally understand how you are feeling John, i lost my mam in november and now it feels so much harder but i know that i need time to grieve as you do…how you are feeling is the love you had for her, go with your emotions i’ve had really sad few days this week i’ve been in my bed most of it but i know that one day that the days will get that little bit better so just take each day as it comes …i only joined this forum a few days ago and it really helped how i was feeling, my grief was validated and i know i’m not alone. Look after yourself and dont be alone. X

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John, I still feel like that now. Ten months in. Grief is awful in every way. Take each day as it comes. There is no right or wrong way to grieve.
Remember you are never alone, no matter how alone you feel. :heart: