i lost my older brother to COVID in 2021, I could not visit him in hospital due to me living with someone vulnerable at the time.
a little back story, I dont get along with my mam neither does my brothers, but when my brother was in hospital she had the say in his care, but he also had a finace at the time and im sure she knew how much “she” would get if he was to die. i spoke to my brother on the phone before they had to put him in a coma and he was fine in himself he just needed a little support, i called every 6 hours to see how he was and they said he was getting better and that he may pull round then the day before he died they said what his life could be like i.e on a oxygen machine for the rest of his life now i know that would not have bothered him but my “mam” thought otherwise so they decided to turn the machines off and to let him go, if i could of been there i could of fought for him, so that leaves me with so much guilt and i hate my mam for doing that to him. I really believe they did it so they could get money for his death, he had 2 children that the money was suppose to go to but his fiance took the money and married another man within 6 months of my brother dying, my brother was only 34 when he died and i am now older than him and it brakes my heart.
i just dont know what to do and i just wish i could feel less guilty
I’m so sorry for the loss of your brother, @JoanneT. It sounds like his death was very traumatic for you and the circumstances and everything since have just added to that. Thank you for bravely sharing this with us.
I’m just giving your thread a gentle bump - I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support.
Take care,
Seaneen