Loss of my partner

Losing a partner
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Hi I recently loss my beloved wife of 25 years. She was being treated for bowel cancer and went into septic shock due to the chemotherapy. After 15 traumatic days on critical care she died. It was her funeral yesterday and I am overwhelmed with grief unable to see any future without her. While I told this is normal and it takes time I am finding this unbearable both her loss and how it happened. When she was diagnosed with cancer we envisaged numerous outcomes including recurrent disease and death, but not this, from diagnosis to death in less than 5 months. I am seeking counselling but at the moment I am not sure how I can go on.

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Hello @ATDibs35,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing what you’re going through. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief

  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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Hi @ATDibs35
I’m so sorry for your loss.

How do we carry on? This is a difficult question for all of us. When my husband died in his sleep in March, I wanted to die too. I couldn’t be here without him. At the time I felt as if someone had reached in and crushed me. My husband was 52 and we were together for 24 years.

Now I function in autopilot and just exist. I’m having counselling and taking antidepressants which does help but the pain never quite leaves.

You are not alone. This forum has helped immensely because everyone here understands what we’re going through.

Take care.

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