Hi all i lost my partner of 11years on the 28th aug 24 came out the blue. She started getting confused so i took her to hospital 2 days in she was doing well then on the Monday i got a call theres no more they can do died on the weds. I had no preparation time i feel like its not real, im just lost and cant function properly. Im not sure how im going to move forward i feel like ive lost a massive part of me and i cant get it back. Im just going through the motions and have no motivation to do anything. Its so wrong as she was only 41 thats the kicker i cant get my head round. I wake up in a morning and get 10 secs of normality then the realisation kicks in and the groundhog day starts again
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Hi Danny
My husband died suddenly on September 29th. I am in so much pain I can’t breathe at times. I feel exactly like you do and cannot begin to imagine a future without my husband and nor do I want to. Reading the various posts on here leads me to believe that although I can’t believe it now, I will learn to live with my pain. Sending you a hug.
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Hi im so sorry for your loss too, im in same boat i cant see past tomorrow and its tough to think past that as the pain kicks in. I mean people say it gets easier with time im not sure it does. On a plus side ive still got our dogs which kedp me busy and force me to go out. Its the emptyness in the house thats gets you the silence. I hope you find a way to cope as im trying to do
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It is 13 weeks since I lost my partner of nearly 40 years. I visited our daughter on the weekend amd still felt lonely and couldn’t hold back the tears. I came home on Sunday evening. My son is looking after my 4 dogs for me. They are not due home until tomorrow. I have done absolutely nothing. I haven’t even got up today. I never imagined grief and loss to feel this horrific. It is such a struggle for us all
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So sorry you have found yourself here. My husband was killed in an accident two months ago. I am trying to put one foot in front of the other for my son who was in the car with him.
I have found it helps to post here, everyone understands what the pain is like , I hope it helps you too x
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The community here is a support. I lost my husband suddenly in August and I totally understand the way you feel.
I hope you can take strength from the positives in this community
Sending a hug x
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The loneliness even when with people is so hard.
Sending a hug x
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Yes too true and thank you sending hugs back i do appreciate it.
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Dear Danny I am so sorry for your loss. My wonderful husband died suddenly in front of me 7 weeks ago. There was no warning.
I am beside myself with grief . I am trying for the sake of my children and grandchildren to be brave. We were married for 49 years and had so much planned for the next decade. We were young 70s . I feel lonely and adrift and at the moment the tears are flowing often.
Will it get easier? I dont see how.
My husband would be heartbroken to see his family in this state. Any advice please. Heartsand
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Danny, we all understand. My husband died 3 weeks ago today. I am numb and robotic. I could not drive for 2 weeks and only drive locally now because my brain is scattered.
My only advice to tell you how it is for me. Hour by hour. I plan only one hour ahead of time. If I think too far into the future, I will crumble and crumbling will not help me do all that must be done. I make a list of 5 things that need to be done every day and do them. It is proof to myself that I am moving and accomplishing what needs to be done.
Yes, there is a huge hole. The futures we planned with our spouses will never be. We mourn not just their physical loss, but the loss of those dreams, the loss of social life, our spouses’ friends we may never see again. I just can’t think of all of that now. One hour at a time.
Yes, 41 is too young. It is very wrong on all levels and so awful. I am so sorry. What you are feeling is absolutely normal. Sudden, unexpected, death of a young person is devastating and it hurts my heart for you.
Peace be upon you.
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So sorry for your loss Danny . I lost my husband my 5 weeks to pancreatic cancer, not a day goes by I don’t think about him all the time it’s still pretty new to me is the grieving.
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It is a terrible place that we all find ourselves. I hope you have support and can find support here. It has been 2 months for me and getting through each day is so hard but there are people here that understand.
Sending hugs and strength x
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So,so sorry for your loss Danny,i lost my hubby 2 weeks ago.If you don’t mind am sending you a hug.
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Im sorry gor your loss, its tough going im not going to lie, the numbness wears off yhen its raw emotion. Sending hugs bk to you
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