Loss of my son

4 days after turning 18, my boy went out with friends and tripped over. He wasn’t drunk or on drugs. He had a head injury and never regained consciousness. He was declared dead on 22 may 3 days later. I wake up every day with a total panic and a hollow feeling inside. I have no idea how to deal with anything.

Hi @Mum2

I’m so sorry to hear about your son. It sounds as though things are very tough at the moment, but I’m glad that you’ve been able to share how you are feeling here and I hope that you find the community a good source of support.

Everyone here has experienced the loss of a loved one, and many have experienced the loss of a child and will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I also wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help you right now.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you with your grief. It has a section on losing a child which shares experiences and stories from others who have experienced the death of a child: Sue Ryder Grief Guide
  • Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
  • Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

Another good place to get support is The Compassionate Friends. It is available for families who have lost a child of any age. You can call them on 0345 123 2304 or visit their website at https://www.tcf.org.uk/

Take care and keep reaching out,

(Sue Ryder Online Community team)

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I lost my son in june, the pain is horrendous. It is very hard.

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I’m so sorry. Was your loss sudden too? Mine had his accident just three days after his 18th. We’d been out for a family dinner. X

Yes, very sudden.

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I feel like I have a hole where my insides used to be. I just keep playing everything over like a film. Can’t sleep,eat, speak.

I know, i keep saying that its a pain we are not meant to feel. Im so sorry for your loss.