Lost my mum a year ago next week and my dad nine months ago the week after that, could some one explain the darkness i feel in my mind, is this normal its like i am depressed at least 3 /4 days a week, this started about a month ago. Is this normal symptoms and how did you manage it
Hi @Grasshopper7GG,
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support/share their thoughts, but I just wanted to say thank you for so bravely sharing this with us. Keep reaching out,
Alex
Perfectly normal coming up to an anniversary particularly the first.
I think from personal recent experience the sub conscious starts on the upcoming anniversary then it becomes a conscious concern.
The Sue Ryder guide
https://griefguide.sueryder.org/support/looking-to-the-future/death-anniversaries/
may help.
Be kind to yourself over the next week 
Plan something special for the day itself.
Also from personal experience don’t be surprised if the day after the anniversary is a bad day.
Take care
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I don’t think there is a right or wrong way to grieve and there’s no timescale. Anniversaries and firsts ( by that I mean the first time you do something without your passed loved ones ) are always difficult. Sharing experiences can be a great help so I think your posting on this forum was a great thing to do. I know its hard but try to take comfort in some things you like, watch a favourite film, have your favourite meal, take a relaxing walk. I was once told taking a 10 minute walk every day, ideally in nature, can make a massive difference
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