Hi I’ve just lost my beautiful son he was 32, I feel so empty and broken how do I deal with this, if I smile when I have my grandkids I feel so guilty if I forget for a little I feel guilty has anyone else felt like this
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I know how you feel.
It is natural to feel guilty for smiling because you think “how can I feel any hint of happiness without my son “
It is ok to smile .
I wouldn’t say there are moments when you forget but are just temporarily distracted.
We need this distraction to cope with this all consuming early grief .
It will get more bearable .
Be gentle with yourself and take pleasure in your grandchildren .
They will keep you going .
Xx
Thank you so much I feel I should be crying every minute of the day I am most of it, this guilt is so hard
Our bodies can not cope with that intense physical and emotional grief long term .
I lost my son 10 weeks ago and feel guilty that I’m not crying all day every day and the feelings of despair I had initially have lessened .
It doesn’t mean I’m any less devastated. It means I’m coping somehow . xx
So sorry for your loss, I’ve never felt pain like it, his cremation is Wednesday at the moment I don’t know if I can go x
Still such early days for you .
I thought I would be able to go to my boys but I did and somehow got through it . Managed to read a poem .
It wasn’t east but I sort of went on auto pilot .
You will get through it
xx
I will be thinking of you and your boy on Wednesday 
So sorry for your loss and I know the pain you are suffering. I lost my son in March. You will find the strength for Wednesday. Sad as it sounds I had no tears at the crematorium, it was packed out but I was determined not to cry, it was a different story when I got home. We are all doing how we control our feelings…just go with it. Will be thinking of you Wednesday xx
Thank you for your kindness x
Thank you, your words have helped, your so kind bless you
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I didnt know if i would go but i did, i sat by his closed coffin the day before and thats probably the most calm ive felt in these last 6 weeks. It will be ond of the hardest day of your life ( im finding it harder after the funeral). Take care will be thinking of you
In my thoughts today, we are here if you need us
Just been sat looking at the sea and thinking of you today. xx
Hi I’ve have just joined and you are the first person I’ve contacted. How are you? I know 100% how you are feeling it’s the worst kind of pain and heartache. I lost two boys earlier this year so I can feel your absolute pain.
Welcome to this forum a place where we don’t want to be but it’s a lifeline I find, I am so sorry about the loss of your two boys. No word can express the pain we feel and go through every day, this is the site where I can actually put my feelings down as no one judges you for any circumstances. Keep messaging we all help each other xx
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Thank you for your kind response I appreciate it
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