Hi im new to the group i lost my mom.on the 5th August he funeral was yesterday she had suffered from dementia for 7 years although she died from a blockage in her windpipe i stayed with my mom in hospital for 4 days and nights she took her last breathe with me by her side ive not been into work for a few weeks and my family are saying its time to move on but im really sad still
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You need time to process, i dont know alot about dementia , but the brief moments your mum was still your mum are still very real, those 4 days were part of your journey & you need time now to process everything. You take as long as you need for that, moving on (whatever that is) when you are ready mot because people tell you to, big hugs & so sorry for your loss x
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Iām so sorry. Donāt listen to other people telling you to move on. Itās not possible to alter your own feelings and āscheduleā of grief. Take things as they come and let yourself grieve. Each day will feel different. I think people are scared to think or talk about death and try to discourage other people, or else they just want you to be available to do what you always do. Or perhaps they are just concerned for you but only you can decide when and how to grieve.
Itās a very difficult thing, but you will get there. Sending you all best wishes x
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Hi i am so sorry to hear about your mum, my mum had dementia too and other health problems too. I too was with her for her last 4 days 24/7 as she was passing over. My mum passed in march this year and i went back to work after her funeral. But to be honest i should have took more time off. We have since had to sell her house etc etc and this has more or less concluded everything. However i am 6 months down the line and grief comes in tidal waves. My hair has started to fall out, it has affected me physically and mentally. I am sure i have PTSD as daily have flashbacks. My advice to you there is no right or wrong, everyone is different, but you really need time to accept what has happened and āmove onā at your own pace. In my opinion you dont āmove onā i have just come to think i need to adjust to mys mums departure and learn to live with it all. Take time and go at your own pace. Much love and hugs x
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It also is good to talk if you can