Lossing a adult son

I am broken. I am brave. Noone understands . Noone else has lost there child. He was my son.

Dear @Charlotte3

Welcome to the Community, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your son. There are no words to describe the pain of losing a child.

There is an amazing organisation called The Compassionate Friends . It is for families who have lost a child of any age. They do have a helpline on 0345 123 2304 and are open every day of the year from 10am-4pm and 7-10pm. Your call will be taken by a volunteer bereaved parent. They will understand.

You can also connect with members who have been in a similar situation as yourself by typing in the search bar Losing a Child. The support here is amazing.

When you are ready and feel up to it Sue Ryer have a useful informative Grief Guide you can look at that will help you understand and cope with your bereavement and grief and help you discover new ways to cope.

Please take care of yourself and continue to reach out any time. We are all here for you.



So sorry that you are bereaved of your lovely son. It is a terrible time i know. There are a lot of people on this site who have and are suffering the same loss as you and who can support you . Sending my love and strength to you and your family xxxxx


I just wanted to add a few words of support. As another bereaved mother, I can understand some of your pain. My own son died in April. Six months on, I still can’t believe it. I have a constant ache in my heart. I am hoping that time will make it more bearable.
The loss of a child is the worst thing that can happen to anyone, I think. I hope Charlotte has loving friends and family who can bring some comfort.
Friends on this site will always listen - and understand.
Take care. :broken_heart:

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Hi Charlotte, I lost my son 10 weeks ago and I offer my sincere condolences to you. Its a very special club we belong to which none of us would have chosen. There are no words but somehow speaking to other mums of sons on here provides a weird sort of comfort. I cry every day, no point in saying I don’t. I’m in a constant state of disbelief that I have lost my big, strong, polite, adventurous, gorgeous son, husband, daddy. I can’t look at his photographs yet nor open the memory box full of condolence cards and bits and pieces. I’m just very sad all the time but have to carry on for the rest of my family. I would love to be in a room on my own and just cry but who would walk my dog, do the washing, try to cheer my daughter in law up, look after my granddaughter, you just can’t give up, it’s not what our sons would want. I couldn’t be any more sad, couldn’t have lived James more. We just have to believe we will one day meet again. My beloved boy.
I hope talking on here to the rest of us will help.
Look after yourself
Much love
Sue :heart:

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Loved James more.

I am a widow of 11 years and in March I lost my only child my lovely caring son.He was 51 and I cry each day thinking of how supportive he was when his dad died.I also cry for the life he should have had.He had addictions then got COPD and CANCER.He was so kind he shouldn’t have suffered so much.My poor boy my heart is broken.But I will wake up tomorrow miss him and my hubby all over again and get through the day as best I can.To lose your child is the ultimate loss I feel so my love and understanding goes out to you all xx