I guess I am not the first and I won’t be the last to write about this. I feel so lost without my mum. I’m an only child and the void she has left in my life is too much to hear. I have a husband, kids and my dad so I know I am luckier than most. But she was my person, my heart, my comfort, when I was sad I turned to her and not having that and her hurts so much. I am totally lost without her and empty. Does it ever get easier? I know it is early days as I am only 5 weeks in, but I can’t see the joy in life at the minute.
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Hello, I really can understand how you feel. I’m 8 weeks in and am finding it very very hard too. I also have a husband, two beautiful daughters and I still feel somewhere between sad and hugely anxious all the time. All I can say is the advice I am getting from my therapist is to not push the feelings away but accept them as a normal part of grieving - easier said than done for sure. There are times I feel somewhere between overwhelmed and anxious I find it hard to function, but just try and remind myself ‘this too shall pass’. I hope that helps in some small way; but you aren’t alone x
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Sorry to hear about your loss. I am now 1 year and 3 months on from losing my beautiful mom and in answer to your question, does it get easier? Yes…in time you find you cope with it better. It never goes away and I’ve had a few emotionally raw weeks recently where I have been asking the same questions again, finding it really painful. But then there are days where you see and feel joy, you may feel guilty to do so but life continues and expects us to carry on. The weight gently starts to lift, but the grief will always remain. We just process it better along the way. Sending you love, take care.x
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Thank you so much for your response and sorry to hear you have been struggling a little bit. It’s so nice to hear from people who have come through some of the hardest time and are starting to see light again, I am looking forward to seeing some light soon!
I’m 18 now and I lost my dad when I was 3 to pneumonia, I know we have very different situations and are very different people but I can’t say it’s gotten any easier for me, I never got to see his face, hear his voice, or really anything about him. it feels like this will haunt me forever but I’m trying to take the steps to move on from it.
Hi Roman, that’s so hard for you I can’t even imagine. I do find this site very helpful to connect with others who have lost people and understand how you feel.