I lost my wonderful little brother yesterday at the age of 41. He was diagnosed with an extremely rare and aggressive form of cancer which had spread to his lungs and brain, he was first diagnosed in Apri, so a 5 month battle. I’m finding his passing to be very traumatic, he declined rapidly over the last two days and announced as being brain damaged on Wednesday, due to this and being heavily sedated he was not able to communicate with us, we were all with him until the very end and I’m so grateful for this. I feel so angry that he’s had to endure this fight and feel robbed that he/we didn’t get chance to tell each other what we wanted to. Can’t believe I’m never to go see him again (in this life anyway). Sending lots of lo e to everyone trying to carry on losing a loved one. I’m 45 and this isy first loss and I’m really struggling.
Hello @Kj2009,
I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your brother that brings you here.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I’ve also moved this to our Losing a sibling section so that you can talk to other members who’ve sadly lost a sibling.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Seaneen
I’m sorry you’ve lost your brother.
You’re not alone with these thoughts. Although we’re all experiencing things differently, we’ve all had loss.
Keep talking here, its a safe space and keep talking to your brother if it helps. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.
I lost my partner 9 months ago and still chat with him now and then.
Hello
What a terrible thing to happen to your brother so young. Very sorry for your loss.
My brother had the same illness and died 5 months after diagnosis, aged 65.
So glad that you were with him. Take it day by day
Kind regards
Sue
@Kj2009,
I’m so sorry for you’re loss, understand how you are feeling. I lost my beautiful little brother who was 45 in may from heart failure, I’m 47 & 3 months before in February I lost my partner of 25 years after trying to resuistate him at home in between both losses my eldest brother was diagnosed with a rare T4 nasal cancer which he’s battling.
It so hard nothing at all prepares you for such a loss it’s so hard to comprehend.
Sending you love and strength xx
Hello Kj2009
I am so so very sorry for your loss, i am thinking of you and your family. I too lost my only younger sibling Frank on Feb 14th 2024 to Lung Cancer secondary to aggresive Leg sarcoma, he had fought twice before that and won but this was too severe. I am still very heartbroken, people grieve in different ways but its still grief, this is a great group for help and support so reach out, i now think i was on an adreline rush when it happened. I was just outside his room when he passed, it broke me i didnt get to say my proper goodbye, i cared for him with the help of great friends here at home. There was only Frank and I, we lived here at home where we were born. Sending you best wishes and hugs take it one hour at a time. We are all here for you.
Sorry i meant 2023 not 2024
So sorry for your loss Kj2009. I lost my younger Sister also to a rare cancer, we had about a year before she suddenly took a turn and died in the hospital in a matter of hours. We were told her cancer was “treatable” but not curable, thus we never expected this terrible event. I was nevertheless grateful to be at her side as she left this realm. I do understand not getting the opportunity to say everything we wanted to. You are right in that we/they were robbed of our future together. I lost my parents , but had my sweet Sister to grieve with, now I need her to help me through this, and she is not here. I hope you have someone you can turn to for support. Your loss is so fresh and you must still be in shock. This forum has been a tremendous help to me, Just being able to write out our feelings can be cathartic.
Take care and post again. Here for you Xxx Another Sad Sister
Hello Sister2 i am so sorry too for your sad loss. I know how you feel i had my only sibling, when my parents died. But now he has died i am on my own, its so hard. Sending you best wishes
So Sorry Norm62, This is such a lonely journey, isn’t it? Take care and thank you for your kind response. Xxx
No problem at all. If you want to DM me, please feel free to do so. Our stories are quite similar. Have a good evening. I was big sister and always thought that my brother would never go before me. Cruel world