Absolutely devastated to loose my dad just after Christmas 2 weeks ago now. I feel shocked even though I knew he was poorly, & in hospital but he’d always picked up when he’d been poorly before so I just expected him to improve again. Probably in some denial here. Going through his belongings is tough seeing memorabilia & photos and little things he’s kept from when we were kids from his attic I’d never seen before. I miss the guy so much, feel heartbroken. 
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I am so sorry. I lost my mum when I didn’t expect to and it is a terrible shock, very painful. I hope that, in time, you will be able to remember the good bits, just as he would wish you to. But the sadness is inevitable. People on here will understand you and be sipportive. Sending you very best wishes x
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So sorry to hear about your mum xxx thanks for your kind words x
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Lost my dad on Thursday, 2 years brain tumour and cancer in lung and bone, I know exactly what you mean my dad was ill on and off for 2 years and he always made some kind of recovery had brain radiotherapy just before Christmas which left him confused and then about a week ago he suffered agonising pain only relieved by strong meds which left him unable to communicate at a time which would have meant the world. I’m trying to look back to the happier times but feel as if my world has fallen apart, somehow the nicer things seem to make the pain worse because it shows how much they loved you, it would be easier to and less painful if you we thought they were bad crazy I know but better to look back at on love I hope you’re pain ease’s
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So sorry, this sounds so hard to deal with. We so want to spare those we love any pain. Xx
So sorry to hear this, I lost my dad suddenly to cancer, only within 2 weeks, something sensitive happened to me prior and I’m reaching out to ask if anyone else has lost a parent and had personally been through trauma like I have in both ways, I was abused by an ex partner and feel guilty that my dad knew and maybe that’s why his cancer spread so quickly? If anyone else had been through trauma, feel free to send me a message to talk x
Hi Annie, so sorry to hear of your loss, please don’t blame yourself , believe me my father had to deal with my personal “issues “ of which he was not happy nearly 30 years ago and believe me he wasn’t happy, but it was years ( 20+) before he even started to have any problems , ( my grandfather had the same) and I know for a fact I didn’t cause his illness, I can assure you that not only did you not cause his illness he most certainly wouldn’t want you to feel bad, or blame yourself, I think and this website has helped prove that parents are stronger than we think I hope you get strength soon x