I lost my husband 6 weeks ago and came across this chat forum. Its still all very raw for me and my 10 year old son. Just looking to chat to other people going through what im going through.
Im finding the evenings the worst right now.
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I’m so sorry for your loss for yourself and your son. This is all so hard to navigate with so many things to do. I lost my husband 12 weeks ago and I can’t tell you it gets easier as we are both in the eye of the storm at the moment. Make time for yourself, cry when you need to, try to eat and try to sleep. I know it isn’t easy. We are all on this awful grief treadmill at various speed. Do take care. Big hugs 
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Thank you. I know, we definitely are in the eye of the storm and can’t see a time being happy again but im optimistic we’ll get there x
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Hi,
I’ve popped on because I think our situations are very (unfortunately) similar.
My fiancé passed away 4 weeks ago leaving me with our 2 young children. It’s all still very raw for me too. Scott’s funeral was 1 week ago today and I’m not even sure the reality of what’s happened has set in yet.
As will be the case with yourself, I’m just devastated and completely in shock. Life is just bland and full of nothingness is the only way I can describe it. If it wasn’t for our children and the absolute roasting I’d get off him when I see him again, I wouldn’t be here.
I just want you to know that you’re not alone.
Christy xx
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I am so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks with you and your son.
Tragically, I am in the same situation. I lost my husband suddenly 7 weeks ago tomorrow. Mornings are the worst, waking up to the realization that I can’t escape this recurring nightmare. Evenings are just as hard - when he would come home from work, and we’d have dinner together, relax, and talk about our days.
This all just sucks. I’m devastated and still in shock, still expecting him to walk through the door. People keep asking how I’m doing, and even though I know it comes from a place of care, it feels offensive. I’m slowly trying to get back to work, but everything feels so meaningless. I constantly wonder how I’m supposed to keep functioning when it feels like my heart has been ripped out of my body.
It’s been an extremely lonely experience. I’ve found it hard to connect with others who truly understand, especially because my husband was only in his 30s, extremely fit and healthy, and none of my peers have any idea what this kind of loss feels like. I just want you to know that I see you, I recognize your pain, and I stand with you.
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Hi Shevl,
I can relate to everything you’ve said there. Mornings awful. Evenings awful. I also keep half expecting Scott to come home.
He was a very funny/ big character which makes the house so very quiet without him.
I too, get irritated by other people and their thoughtless comments. At Scott’s funeral someone said “I bet you’re glad it’s all over with now love.” I just found it so unfeeling and ignorant. How could the funeral mean that it’s all over? This is our life.
You too are very much seen, understood and heard.
sending lots of love your way lovely xx
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