We will be here for you
It’s the same for me, 20 April my husband would have been 70 
, I’m hoping I will be with my two sons on that day, it’s also Easter Sunday. Another milestone is 8 May we had booked to go on holiday, our first cruise, my husband was so looking forward to that too.
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I wish you all the best on this hard journey you are now on, along with the rest of us. This coming June we would’ve been married 57 years, together for almost 60 years. A lifetime. I’ve had the first Christmas without him (very tough) the first New Year, and soon it will be his 79th birthday, then our 57th anniversary. It’s the hardest journey we have to make and those people who think you should “get over it” have absolutely no idea because they obviously haven’t been through it. We are all here for you.
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Thank you so much for telling me about yourself, I can see I have a lot of things to face that I haven’t even thought about, the summer time was Irenes favourite season she loved the sun and we spent hours together in the garden, so I’m a bit scared of the summer and her not being here
You’re welcome. Please don’t be afraid to come on here and vent how you’re feeling. It’s not self pity, it’s grief. It’s early days for me too, 5 months since losing my husband, I know we will never stop grieving, but I’m hoping that we will get better at dealing with it in time.
Thank you Jane
Thank you for your kind words and in bad times like tonight I will come here for help
I’m going through a very bad time and can’t stop crying. I’m so afraid of feeling
so low. It’s just over 5 months since my husband died suddenly and unexpectedly and this grieving is getting worse. I feel
like giving in, my future has gone. I’m feeling so low and my husband is not here to help me through. I had a real meltdown today my eldest son came over and took me out for a lovely lunch, I enjoyed it but knew it was just in the moment and I would be back here on my own. I have tried so hard to be strong and feel I’m losing the battle …anyone else feeling this way?
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Maisie I don’t know if I can be any help my wife died only 6 weeks ago , and I break down every day at the moment I didn’t know that the eye could produce so much water. I went out on my own last night for the first time only down the pub I’m not a drinker but I met some people there that I new. But like you say when you get home your on your own again. But it did make me think I need to get out more and meet people, I love singing and there is a choir need to where I live and I’m thinking of joining they don’t need to know about Irene but I think singer and just having normal chats with nice people may help
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5 months for me too. I regularly have meltdowns - it’s normal. I have anxiety attacks too which apparently are also normal! We will get better with time I’m sure. Always someone on here who understands the pain we are going through xxx
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Thank you for sharing it doesn’t help much to know you are hurting to but if you ever need a chat I am here x
Thank you for taking the trouble to reply. It helps knowing others understand xx
I would appreciate peoples views/experiences of attending Counselling sessions. I’m struggling at the moment with the loss of my husband (almost 6 months since his passing) and wonder if I may benefit from seeing a Counsellor. I’m finding life so lonely and the reality of his passing doesn’t get easier. As spring has arrived, a time when normally I look forward to what lies ahead with holidays, cycling together and enjoying outdoor life I’m filled with immense sadness. I’m trying to keep up with jobs my husband did, gardening and maintaining outdoor decor etc but feel everything seems so pointless without my soulmate. I fully intend carrying on cycling but know the first few times will be difficult without him. As you all know how tough losing someone is and having the will and strength to carry on. I wonder if Counselling has helped ease the painful grieving process in any way.
Myself I started seeing my Doctor yesterday as I had a breakdown on Sunday night , it did help to talk and left feeling a little better and with additional support we meet again in 3 weeks,but can phone him at any time I feel I need help
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I am sorry you had a breakdown but pleased that you are getting help x
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Thanks for those words
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