Lost mum and job in the same month

A month ago I was made redundant from my job, my second redundancy in 18 months. Then three weeks later my mother suffered a severe stroke and passed away five days later.

I’m struggling to cope. I know my sisters are grieving too but they have jobs to go back to and a secure future. I am 42, rent alone (I was about to begin the buying process before the latest redundancy) and now I have no job and no income. My job was a niche one and difficult to find outside of London (translation/localisation management) so I will have to pivot to find something quickly. I’m angry about being stressed about being unemployed when I should be mourning my mum - she had been in ill health for some time and we knew this moment would come sooner rather than later, but the stress has stolen my precious last moments with her.

My GP has put me on sertraline so I’m dealing with the side effects before it kicks in. But I have no energy for the job search and funeral plans (obviously I’m putting the funeral plans first). I do have substantial savings so am covered for a while, but I’m terrified I will never get out of this black hole.

Hi @Cats_and_coffee,

Thank you for bravely reaching out. You’re coping with an awful lot right now. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. You are not alone. I’m not sure if you’ve seen our Losing a parent category. But there you can connect with other members who are living with grief after losing a parent.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support to you. In the meantime, you might find these Sue Ryder resources helpful to read.

You might also find Mind’s info on coping with redundancy helpful to read:

https://www.mind.org.uk/workplace/my-mental-health-at-work/coping-with-redundancy

I hope you find the community to be a support to you. Take good care and keep reaching out :blue_heart: