Hi, lost my mum over a year ago along with my three dogs and it feels like grief has just slapped me in the face. Please tell me this is normal? I have been doing great and felt I was coping well, however, I got married this year and after I come back from honeymoon I have suffered so badly with anxiety and it’s like it’s come out of no where. I’m so anxious, sad and angry everyday and I don’t know why. I push on everyday but to be honest I just want to curl up in bed.
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Hi, I’m so sorry for your loss. Feeling this way is completely normal. I understand how you feel angry and anxious. It feels as though you’ll never move forward. I think it gets easier to live with the feeling of missing them, but unfortunately missing them doesn’t stop 
i hope you start to feel a little better. Sending hugs.
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Hi Amy,
Thank you for your reply, really appreciate your words. I’m honestly at a loss with all of this, the anxiety feels like it’s killing me, and I don’t know what I’m anxious over, or I’m anxious over everything and I can’t explain why I miss my mum and Furbabies everyday and would give anything to talk too or pat them again. Loosing mum and dogs all within 9 months of each other was so cruel and I ask myself all the time what I did to deserve that, it’s so unfair. I hope this lifts in time, as it hurts so much.
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My condolences. 
I don’t think there is a set timeline for grief, it can creep up on us or rather jump at us at any time. So it isn’t strange, in fact it sounds logical to me that you have a dip now. After your wedding and honeymoon, of course you would feel her absence more keenly and miss her more. I’m very sorry for the loss of your dogs, as well. They are family too and it hurts when they leave us. 
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That is incredibly cruel to lose them all so close together but you haven’t done anything wrong. It is so unfair. I lost my mum 10 months ago and completely understand the anxiety that comes with missing her everyday. It doesn’t feel real. Understandably, you miss her more now you’re married. We’re all in this together.
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So sorry for your loss Amy, it’s so hard isn’t it? My mum was my best friend, the person I could talk to and who understood me the most. She died of stomach cancer in May 2023 at age 61, she was given a prognosis of a year in 2022 so I made sure we done lots and spent time together, talking and enjoying whatever time we had left and as hard as it was at times, I’m glad I had those moment’s/days as it’s all memories for me. The anxiety is the worst, I seem get anxious over stupid things like my neighbours dog barking, it’s ridiculous and finding it hard to shake. I hope in time in eases as i’m at my wits end just now
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I completely understand and i’m so sorry to hear that. My mum died suddenly in December, she had liver cancer but biagnosed her with gall stones. By the time she got to hospital, they gave her 24hrs 
Im so sorry your feeling so anxious, mine comes and goes, the panic attacks have been the worst. As you do, i feel completely lost without mum.
All i can say it that its supposed to get easier… or so I’ve heard. Keep thinking about all those good days you had with your mum, positive things. Especially during an anxiety attack. It’ll help. I found going places i shared with mum has helped a little too. But it is so hard.
I hope the anxiety eases soon for you 
always here to talk things through with you as well.
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Sending hugs to you both, be strong if possible. It’s what your mum’s would want and I know it’s not always easy.
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Thank you for your reply. Its not easy but we have to try. Missing her a lot.
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Thanks for your kind words Keith 🫶🏻 like Amy said is hard when I miss her so much. But you’re right, my mum would want me to be strong and she knew I was strong even if I didn’t believe it myself. One day at a time 
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Hi its coming up to a year when my mum passed away, 5th nov, im still struggling with that day , , i will never forget in my eyes nothing was done to save her in hospital, i hate weekends in hospital, i dream about it every night but i carry on with my lufe, i have my grandchildren and my family to keep me going, so stay strong. Ive found finding a hobby helps , i run a little stall , so my time is busy making items for it , look after yourself xx
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