I lost my mum on 9th September. She had a stroke and wasn’t coping, but I never imagined she would do this. It was also an unusual method of suicide, so my dad was arrested and put home was forensically tested.
My dad is on ‘bail’ til December at least.
We are cremating her this week, but we have barely had time to begin to process anything as we’ve had this over our heads.
I was video recorded in a 2 hour interview as I had arrived just after dad had found mum gone. It’s an image I cannot get out of my head. I don’t know how to cope
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Hello @LeanneV,
I can see that you’re new to the community - I really hope you find it to be a support to you, but I’m so sorry for the loss of mum that brings you here. It sounds like her death was a massive shock to you and that everything since has made it all the more traumatic. Please know that you are not alone.
I’m sure someone will be along to share their thoughts. In the meantime, I just wanted to share these resources with you as I know other members have found them helpful.
- Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide offer support to people over 18 who have been affected by suicide. They have a supportline on 0300 111 5065 and run support groups nationally.
- Support after Suicide has a list of local and national support.
You might also want to explore our Online Bereavement Support, where you find our Grief Guide self-help platform, our Grief Coach text support service, and how to access our Online Bereavement Counselling.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out.
Take care,
Seaneen
Dearest LeanneV, when the image enters your head, think of a better one of her immediately, that is all I can do. That last image is not the only image we have. Choose another. Just a suggestion. I am so very sorry that your father is a suspect and that you were further traumatized by being recorded for 2 hours immediately after finding your mother dead. I am so sorry this happened to you and is happening to you. This is a lot to handle all at once and there is no reason for you to be “coping” with it on your own. Truly, seek a counselor and get some assistance from a professional. Pray. Go to church. You will find stability there.