Lost my baby boy

Losing a child
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Hi, i lost my little boy aged 10 months in november and finding things quite difficult at the moment, i went back to work today which was not great, we still dont have any post mortem results but thats been 12 weeks tomorrow so i know they will be back any day and i panic when my phone rings. I dont know what to do i just feel so lost

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Hello @Sophieeann95,

I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your baby boy that brings you here.

You say you’re feeling lost, so I wanted to share some resources which may help you to navigate your grief.

  • Child Bereavement UK support families with the loss of a child. They also support bereaved children. You can call their helpline on 0800 02 888 40.

  • The Compassionate Friends support families who have lost a child of any age. They have a grief companion scheme where you can get 1-1 support from another bereaved parent. You can call them on 0345 123 2304.

  • Sands - Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Society have lots of support on their website.

  • Tommy’s support anyone with the loss of a baby. They have a helpline on 0800 0147 800 or email midwife@tommys.org. They also have a baby loss support Facebook group.

You may also want to connect with @Fernie and @Mia80 who have also experienced the devastating loss of a young child.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,
Seaneen

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I’m very sorry for your loss, you’re very brave to be back at work. I hope the report brings you some answers. Xx

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Hi sophieeann95,
I’m so sorry for your loss and my heart breaks for you. I have just felt the loss of a child as a teaching assistant/carer and the pain is unbearable so I can only imagine how much pain you are in right now. The same as you still waiting for autopsy results and the wait adds to the pain. I know mine isn’t the same as yours but I just wanted you to know I feel some of it and you are not alone. You are so brave and strong for going back to work and I hope you have lots of people supporting you. I’m always happy to have a chat or listen to a rant. I am also a mother like you and know the love and care we give our children.