My husband Kenneth died 17 weeks ago. He was 91. We had 12 magnificent years together , the best years of my life. There was 31 years difference in our ages so I knew this day would come one day but I didn’t expect it to happen when it did . He was doing fine and had much to live for but suffered a severe stroke right in front of me that seriously damaged two thirds of his brain and in that split second my life went from colour to darkness. He was stabilised in hospital but the neurologist recommended end of life. I had to agree and twelve days later he passed away and found peace. I miss him so so much , he was my rock , sole mate and half of me. My life was beautiful. My life now is one which lacks any purpose. I just exist . I have been lucky with having a strong support network which was activated in the first few weeks and then faded as people have to face their own problems in life leaving me to now fend for myself. Some days I’m okay and think I’m improving and moving forward , then Bang ! the grief slams in to me again sending me back to the starting point. When will this pain end ?
Richie the pain may never pass in full but believe me it will ease as time goes by and you learn to live a new like. I lost my partner 16 months ago and it still feels like he was with me only yesterday. They say that grief is the price you pay for loving someone and to me that feels right!
Try and remember the good times and at the really awful points ask yourself what would Kenneth have wanted you to do? I do that and know that my partner Mal would not have wanted me to mope and be upset all the time. So that comforts me and I suspect that in time you may well begin to feel the same way.
Use sites like this whenever you need to - everyone on here has gone through the same awful pain and want to help you through it.
Hi Marchon, thank you for your very kind words and I’m very sorry for your loss and I wish you all the best in your recovery. Grief is the price we pay for love. The stronger the love the greater the grief.
“The stronger the love the greater the grief” That is so true and knowing that somehow eases the pain. Thank you and all the very best to you Richie.
So sorry for your loss Richie
My husband was older than me but never seemed it,
He should have lived longer but he had two types of cancer and couldnt withstand the chemotherapy and the cancers. I am devastated
Hi Kate , Thank you . I’m so sorry for your loss.