Lost my big brother

Two weeks ago tomorrow my oldest brother passed away. He had been diagnosed with terminal cancer but chose not to tell any of us (only his youngest child was told) its been such a huge shock to us all. His death comes less than 2 years after we lost both of our parents.

So i find myself back in dark days of early grief, the anger, the sadness, the headaches and the lack of patience with the world.

I know this will pass, its just a hard and tricky road ahead.

Sending love to everyone walking this path x

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Hello @Annie46 .

I am truly sorry for your loss.

I joined this forum after the loss of my husband. Five months earlier I lost an older brother. Like you, I’m from a big family. There are eight of us, although seven now but I still think of us as eight. The loss of our brother has left a huge hole in our family, like a piece of the jigsaw is missing. Our family is no longer whole. Sometimes I forget he’s gone and I just think he’s at home in his flat. I don’t know why, but I was surprised at how deeply his dying affected me.

Five months later my world was completely destroyed by the sudden death of my beloved husband. This death overshadowed the loss of our brother and my grieving for him was pushed to one side.

I do understand how you feel but there will come a time when you can think of your brother with a smile rather than a tear. I often think about when we were kids and my brother would make us play armies but he always had to be the higher rank. I’m smiling now as I’m typing. :sparkling_heart:

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I’m the baby of 7, huge age gap between me and the others. My brother who passed was 21 years my elder.
Apparently he was horrified when my parents announced they were expecting again, but mum told me that when I cried as a baby he was the first one to my cot to get me :heart:

I’m so sorry for the loss of your brother and husband. Sending you much love and peace x

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Thank you @Annie46 .

Cherish the memories. :heart:

Dear @Annie46

I am so sorry to hear of the recent loss of your brother and of your parents 2 years ago.

There is an article on Losing a Sibling which may be of help to you by Sue Ryder along with the following resources.

Grief is a tough journey and is a rollercoaster ride of emotions. Everyone’s journey is different. Take one day at a time and be gentle with yourself.

You are not alone, we are all here for you.

Take Care

Peppers x

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So sorry to hear of your loss. I have lost both of my brothers now, one to suicide and the other to terminal cancer and it ferls so hard at times as the youngest i feel completely alone with no siblings there is only myself and mum now and some days just feel overwhelming.

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Aww, I’m so sorry for your loss. That must be so hard for you both. I can’t imagine that as a sister or a parent.
Sending hugs x

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Thinking of you. My brother died 4 years after my last parent. Yes, it is a long hard road and terrible shock for you.

Be kind to yourself

Kind regards

Sue

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