I lost my boyfriend just over a month ago. It was sudden and I didn’t get to say goodbye. He was only 42 and we were (still) madly in love.
I left my job a few months prior as we had plans to relocate to Italy (where he was from) so not only have i lost the love of my life, I have no job, no community or close by friends.
My life has not been easy prior to this tragedy and I though my time for happiness was here and I felt soooooo blessed but within a second i lost everything again. The darkness is so real and I have no one to turn to. Feeling numb and lost, are there any online meet ups…I would love to find a group of people going through the same.
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your boyfriend. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
You may also like to reach out to WAY (Widowed and Young) - which is for anyone under 50 who has lost a partner. They have online forums and offline meet-ups, https://www.widowedandyoung.org.uk
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Amanda, I am so sorry your boyfriend died. He was so young, it is just a tragedy. Truly, it is horrible. And, for you, poor darling, you are stuck numb, lost, alone, sad, worried, unemployed, brokenhearted, missing him so, and mourning the future you lost.
We get it. We are all widows and widowers and no one understands like we do.
It is a lot on your plate and you must be overwhelmed by everything. We all are, in varying degrees and circumstances.
Cry until the tears stop. They will. Be sure to eat well, get rest and take your vitamins. Grief can wreck every function of our bodies.
Make a list of 5 things to do each day. Do them. Check them off the list. It is a visual clue that you are functioning through these days. 8 weeks for me and I live by the list and hour by hour.