I lost my brother 3 weeks ago today and my heart is broken. We were only a year apart and were best friends. I am struggling to process he is gone and feek like im annoying everyone as im so sad and crying all the time. People expect you to get over it so quickly and move on but they dont understand what he meant to me. He was part of me and no one knew me like he did. My world will never be the same.
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’m so sorry to hear about your brother. I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. Three weeks is still very early, and it’s ok to not be ok . Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Hi, I’m so sorry for your loss…
I have a similar situation, losing my younger brother recently was soul shattering. He too was my bestfriend, a mini version of me and my life will never be the same. My biggest fear used to be the idea of him dying, now it’s living life without him. It’s helped me, holding onto the idea of living life for him and that one day we will meet again.Just remember you’re not alone on this long heavy road
Thanks. It was my birthday today. First birthday without hearing from my brother ever. So painful. Cried most of the morning, as was alone most of the day. I am struggling to see any positive right now.
I’m deeply sorry for your loss and I feel your pain. I too lost my sister 5 weeks ago. I’m not the same person anymore. She took a part of me with her when she chose to end her life. There was on 15months between us. She was my best friend. At first people txt and call tell you they are there then it stops. I just want to curl up in bed in silence and shut the world out. It’s so hard. Sibling bereavement is awful. They were our past and they should be our future. We were suppose to grow old together. Your feelings are normal. We will never get over it and even though its frustrating when people tell you it will get easier I’m sure it will but it takes time. We need to adjust to a new life without them. Have you had the funeral yet?
Im so sorry to hear about your loss, and thank you for reaching out. I totally get what you’re saying. I found out todag my brother died of a pulmonary embolism. Not sure how I feel about the news. Ive not cried today for the first time in over 6 weeks. I kept myself busy all day baking and cooking.
Yes the funeral was on the 5th of October. It was a very tough day but somehow held it togther until the evening, and then I lost it a bit.
At the moment I am finding it hard to think it’s real, this happens a lot until something reminds me its true and then it hits me like a tonne of bricks.
The days fluctuate, one day i think its getring easier and the next day its worse than ever. I guess it will continue to be like this for a while…