Lost my brother and best friend

I’m new to this group and wanted to talk for help and support. I lost my little brother suddenly 5 weeks ago at the age of 29. He was my best friend and I cant even describe the massive void thats left. I spoke to him about everything and we finished each others sentences. We were like twins. I just feel so alone and lost. I have a very close family so we all have support but the one person I spoke to about how I’m feeling is gone and I can’t get him back. My world fell apart when he died and I don’t know how to cope.

Dear Em77,

Having 3 sisters and a brother myself, and knowing how precious good sibling relations are, I can understand that the loss of your brother must have left a massive void in your life. Sometimes it can help to talk about how you feel with someone outside your circle of friends or family. Cruse is one of the organisations you ould contact. There is an article on their site about sibling loss that you may find helpful: https://www.cruse.org.uk/understanding-grief/grief-experiences/losing-a-sibling/
It is good that you have come to this site. I hope that by reading other people’s post and replies you will find some comfort, knowing you are not alone. Take care. xx Jo

Thank you for your reply. I’ve spent most of the morning reading through people’s stories on this site and at a time when I feel so alone there is so many people having gone through the same loss. As comforting as it is knowing I’m not alone I still fall into myself and get swallowed up by my grief. I miss my brother so much and I can’t even begin to see how my life is suppose to carry on without him

Hello Em77,

Sorry for your loss, I know exactly how you feel. I lost my older brother in February 2022 to a sudden heart attack. (I will write my own article some time soon, but I am not ready yet.) Like you, we had the best relationship I could ever have wished for. The downside is that makes it so much harder to cope now. I wish I could say something that would make you feel better. Walking is suppose to help. Well, perhaps a little. Just pick a sunny warm day and walk slowly.

I did find a good photo of my brother and I look at it several times a day. (I will let you know if it works. So far, it only makes me cry.) I did read that talking to the person who died is also a normal part of the grieving process. - I have tried it but I cannot tell if it helps.

Jo64 wrote about “Cruse Bereavement Support”. You could also call the Samaritans https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/talk-us-phone/ - You can call them any time. I find them slightly better than Cruse and I have called them many times. They want you to talk, because talking will lower your anxiety. Cruse is more likely to give advice.

I know that your post has been written in February and you probably will not read this. - I hope you feel better now.

If you do read this, I wish you all the best.