Lost my dad and brother

I lost my dad in March to prostate cancer and my brother a month ago to melanoma - he was 54. I’m really struggling to cope, I’ve got insomnia and anxiety. I’m finding it diffficult to socialise, feel very vulnerable and sensitive. Has only been through multiple bereavements? How did you get through it? Thank you…

Hi RosieK,

I’m so sorry to hear that you lost your dad and your brother this year. It’s completely understandable that you’re struggling to cope after two significant losses in such a short space of time.

You mention that you’re finding it difficult to socialise - do you have anyone you can comfortable talk to about how you’re feeling? A close friend or family member? It’s really important to keep talking and not bottle everything up.

We have an article on our information pages about coping with bereavement, which may be helpful to have a read through. It talks about some of the common emotional and physical reactions people experience when grieving, and includes some suggestions for how to manage these.

Should you feel that some extra support would be helpful, we also have a free online bereavement counselling service for community members. There’s more information about that here.

Take care of yourself and let me know if there’s anything I can do to support you.

With best wishes,