I lost my Dab on tuesday , and im devastated , i last saw him 10 days ago and he was normal and well i just cant get my head around it , he was the rock of the family and my life has just been turned upside side ,i dont know what im going to do without him , my life will never be the same again

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Hello @Sam83,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it. Your loss is so recent, so please be gentle with yourself.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

@Sam83 I am so sorry for your loss. I know how it feels. I lost my Dad 2 years ago very suddenly, he was only 46. I saw him a week before and then he was just gone. Its heartbreaking and the feelings you are feeling are completely normal. Sending you strength and love through this difficult time. People say it gets easier but I am yet to feel that. Your Dad will be so proud of you and I am so so sorry x

I am very sorry. Mine is gone, too. it is the worst chapter in life. you will take years to heal. life is this way. but be easy on yourself. drink water, and rest, and take your leave of the world. it doesn’t understand the frame of mind you are in. grief groups helped me a lot and I also got counseling. it was a wretched, wretched time. I felt I was struck by a 2x4 piece of wood and left on the side of the road. I know how you feel.

I lost my father month ago. It was sudden.
I know you pain and it will become more numb over time. For me the first two weeks were devastating. I was feeling drowning and like couldn’t breath, maybe I had some light panic attacks, I’m not sure. Now I’m more stable, but still extremely disappointed in life and how it unfolds. Still this life and how it evolved over millennium. We come and go, but a lot of our parents lives in us.

My Dad died at 3pm today. I dont care what happens to me anymore. I just want him back.

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Hello @Cherylann2461,

I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad. It sounds as though things are very difficult at the moment and you are feeling like you want your Dad back.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. You might already be familiar with our other Online Bereavement Support services, but if not, you can find out more about our Online Counselling service, our Grief Coach text support service, and our Grief Guide self-help tools by visiting the link.

Another good place to get support is http://www.cruse.org.uk/bereavement-services They offer a helpline which you might find helpful.
Take care - keep reaching out,

Hi Cherylann
i know how you feel, my dad passed suddenly not so long ago , its even hard for me to say it ,i feel as though im living a nightmare,