My dad died suddenly in March and since then I have struggled to cope with the fact he is gone. I took a couple of months off work, tried going back and it hit me all over again so I have not been back yet. I have very supportive friends and family but I feel as though grief is drowning me and I can’t see a way past it.
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Hello @nicolen,
Thank you for bravely reaching out. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. You are not alone. I’m not sure if you’ve seen our Losing a parent category. But there you will find lots other members sharing their experiences of living with grief after losing a parent.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support to you. In the meantime, you might find these Sue Ryder resources helpful to read.
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Our Losing a parent page talks through some of the emotions you may be experiencing
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through
You might also find our info page on returning to work after bereavement helpful to read.
I hope you find the community to be a support to you. Take good care and keep reaching out 
Alex
I totally get where Ur coming from I lost my dad December 2020 I was his main carer for 8 yrs he was my world we argued like husband and wife lol but I wouldn’t of want it any other way I will never say it gets easier cuz it don’t but U will learn to deal with it,your dad is looking down on you and he’s so proud you got this far 
it’s never goodbye it’s until we meet again xxx
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Hi all.Am new on here as I just needed to express my feeling of total devastation at the sudden loss of my father a month ago.I’m 59yrs of age and lived with my parents for most of the week so for nigh on 60yrs I was with him almost everyday.Yes he was 81 but was in reasonable health and I know we all must go sometime but I’ve lost my best friend who I looked forward to our chats everyday when I came in from work.Now his chair is empty I cannot comprehend he’s gone forever.The stress of losing him has also impacted my health to such an extent I’m sure my stomach/chest issues are caused by my constant grieving and I wish when I eventually get sleep I wouldn’t wake up as I’ve got to face another day without him which is torture for my body and mind.Thanks for reading.
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Hi
I know u think that your wife ain’t worth living now but Ur dad would want you to live your best life and be happy I lost my mam when I was 17 and then lost my dad when I was 35 I also lost my brother when I was 25 I never thought I would get to where I am now I struggle but I do it and I think you should focus on Ur self now Ur dad would want that he lived his life you try living yours and put itself first we ain’t here long so make each day count be grateful for what u do have bute I wish you all the best and try living Ur best life xxx
Your life I ment sorry xxx
Sorry for your losses Sarabe and thanks for your kind words and yes I think you are right that he wouldn’t want me sinking into misery and even my elderly mother says I’ve just got to try let him go but I’m trying my darned hardest but this will be done in my own time as everybody is different where grief is concerned.
Love to all who have lost loved ones.
Frank xx
I lost my dad coming up for 5 years it does get easier but the pain never goes away a was off for 7weeks when dad passed theres never easy time to go back to work but when i did a new was time stopped me overthinking for few hours take your time it takes time to adjust
I completely get where Ur coming from theres no time limit on grief you have to take each day as it comes and do what Ur comfortable with,there’s no easy way to deal with it and it’s easier said than done when family say let him go and get on with it they mean well they probably don’t know what to say they just want to see Ur pain go away bless, you will get through this but u need to do it in Ur own time xxx
Hi I’m new here hence just posting Hi in a previous post.
I’m sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my dad in march and it was like my own life ended that day too.
I understand how you are feeling . My life will never be the same living without him. To get through my days I recognise the point of grief I’m at and allow myself to ride the waves . When it feels unbearable I get out of the house and walk somewhere nice other days when it feels ok I just think of all the great times we had. Having a platform such as this is a great help to know you are not alone on this journey . [quote=“Runningman66, post:8, topic:107275, full:true”]
Sorry for your losses Sarabe and thanks for your kind words and yes I think you are right that he wouldn’t want me sinking into misery and even my elderly mother says I’ve just got to try let him go but I’m trying my darned hardest but this will be done in my own time as everybody is different where grief is concerned.
Love to all who have lost loved ones.
Frank xx
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@Runningman66 there is no time limit on grief what u are feeling now is normal,Ur dad would want u to just live your life I don’t care what anyone says but u will meet again,just be kind to yourself and take care of urself we not here for a long time, we here for a good time sometimes I wish I could take my own advice but that will never happen lol good luck with the future xxx
I lost my dad back in 2018 when I was around 12, just before I started secondary school, I ended up not going in for around 2 years as I couldn’t cope with the fact he was gone, I’m still learning how to deal with it myself but the best thing you can do is talk to someone about how you feel, no matter who it is, I’ve done it every day for the last couple of months and I feel so much better for it. I am so sorry for your loss and hope you find peace and are able to deal with this loss soon.
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Thank you Harry and your loss at such a young age makes me so grateful that least I had my father for much of his life as that must be so hard for you to accept although we suffer the same.I think my mother is also giving up as they were married for 61 years and she keeps saying there’s no point in her living now so we are now as a family trying to tell her dad wouldn’t not want her to give up.Love to you all xx