Lost my Dad

Losing a parent
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Hi,

Im new here. 3 weeks ago i lost my Dad. Im 42, and Im not coping very well. I feel like i have a pit in my stomach that I cant deal with and Im not sure where to look for help.
I keep going to ring or text my Dad like im on auto pilot, then it hits me that hes gone.

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Hi @Emma41 Sorry about your Dad. I lost mine in March & on Wednesday it will be 34 weeks. I remember those early days so don’t expect too much. Shock affects everything especially your digestive system. I had constant nausea back then. There are days I really want to share stuff with him & then I remember he’s gone. It’s a life changing event so it takes time to adjust & it’s horrible. Do you have support? X

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Thankyou for your reply x I do have support, but for some reason i feel guilty making use ofnthe support. I feel like i should be able to ‘deal’ with it.

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Hi Emma. I can totally relate. I lost my Dad 6 weeks ago. I am 45. He was 71 and always so fit and healthy but had cancer that ended up in his brain and the last few weeks were horrible so I feel I am dealing with that trauma as well as dealing with the first major loss in my life. What a rollercoaster right? Sending love and I’m sorry for your loss. I can only hope that it gets better, like everyone says xx

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Youve just helped me realise something…it is dealing with the trauma of thenillness, aswell as the grief of him being gone. Im so sorry you lost your dad x

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Youve just helped me realise something…it is dealing with the trauma of thenillness, aswell as the grief of him being gone. Im so sorry you lost your dad x

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Exactly. I don’t know how you’re dad passed away but mine had cancer. He had it for around 2 years but sadly it went to his brain and they couldn’t do any more. The last 3 weeks were very rapid and we cared for him at home so I was there until the very end. I wish I could get some of those days out of my head :frowning: x

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My dad had cancer too. Prostate cancer diagnised 2 years ago, and then rapidly spread to his bones, lymph, vertebrae and kidneys. He had a kidney drain put in, but developed Sepsis. They got the Sepsis reasonably under control but his body couldnt fight anymore.

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I’m so sorry. Cancer is just so cruel for the whole family. I thought I was prepared but turns out I had no idea about this whole grief thing. What also comes alongside it is now worrying about my mum and her grief and future too. Never ending cycle it seems x

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@Emma41 Dont feel guilty. There are days I can’t cope or feel as if I can’t. I drift along in my grief bubble, hoping I’ll feel better but subtle reminders don’t help. I can also relate to the trauma leading upto his death. He’d been in hospital & On the day that he was supposed to be discharged, he died. The hospital was a shambles & I blamed myself for ages that I didn’t get him home. My advice is accept any help that’s given, regardless. Xx

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