I am very sorry for your loss … and also very grateful for this community of brave survivors. Whether the day we are having is a better one, or a worse one, there is always someone here who has a kind sympathetic response.
I am just a little over 100 days and I am so grateful when I find a card or note tucked in a drawer (bean, don’t forget to get something to eat, I’m headed to the garden). So many Valentine’s and Mother’s Day cards that show up at just the moment I need them (most recently a photo of an older woman with a jackhammer and overalls, ‘no one said mothering was easy, happy Mother’s Day, I love you forever’). Even cards written to me from our dog in his handwriting. So grateful and also wishing it were so different.
I found myself counting my age 56 and wondering, 10 years of widowhood? 20? Wrote in my journal, ‘this is going to take learning a new pace.’ (Which is also Italian for peace, right?)
Sending everyone love and good rest, hopes for good sleep, waking with a good appetite and a good morning walk in crisp air.
I am so sorry for your loss, @Rach1975 … two weeks is so early, no matter how long you might have known the day was coming, you must still be in shock.
I hope you take big deep breaths. I hope you are surrounded by love and care. I hope when you look up to the sky you see clouds in the shape of your favorite animals or snacks (don’t laugh, after my husband passed I loved seeing clouds shaped like dragons and pints of beer). If you are near a body of water, I hope you have sunrises or sunsets to help you mark the day. Moonlight to shine through the window.
I’m only a few months into this journey myself. We have to take care of each other. Grief swallows the “us” we knew and it takes so much time, I’m still not there yet, to be reborn as the “us” we don’t know yet.
Know you are loved … let others help you feel it.
Write us if you have questions or need anything.
Sorry for your loss your not alone on here this group has helped me alot with losing my husband on the 9 February 25 its so hard lossing someone you loved ive lost my mum,dad and sister but this pain in unbelievably harder than that. Take one day at a time eat well and stay strong i use this group for when im feeling overwhelmed with grief and need to off load a little. Take care xx
Thanks Sue I’m sorry for your loss, it’s awful isn’t it feel so lost and alone the last 14 years has been hell I also lost my dad very suddenly and my mum and now my husband and my brother has been diagnosed with lung cancer I really don’t know how much I can take
xxx