I’m absolutely heartbroken 
it’s been near.y 2 weeks without my husband and I’m lost I don’t know what to do with myself.
After 25 months of hospital appointments chemo appointment to nothing it’s the hardest thing ever,
I really don’t know how I’m going to cope without you my whole world has fallen apart 
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Rach1975
I know exactly how you feel my husband passed away 17 months ago after 26 months of operations, chemo, immunotherapy and radiotherapy. Not a pleasant experience watching someone you love so much suffering like that. Take care x
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@Rach1975 I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my amazing husband 8 weeks ago so know exactly how you’re feeling right now. Do you have family and friends for support. It’s such early days for you, just take one day at a time and take care of yourself. Reach out on this forum whenever you need to x
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It’s the hardest thing ever,I’ve never felt pain like this I feel so low.
I feel for you,it’s so hard watching them go through all the pain and suffering they do just to stay with us,I think I’ve been on cancer mode so long I just didn’t think it was going to happen I’m devastated .
Sending love and hugs to you x
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Sorry for your loss,it’s such a sad time I think I thought we would live forever,I’m really not enjoying being an adult right now 
.i have family and friends who have been amazing with me sadly no children, I have 2 fur babies that have kept me going and make living in the house a little easier but it’s just a horrible feeling being on my own xx
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Rach1975
I am really sorry for your loss. My wife passed on 6th Jan 2025, and i know how hard it is.
People generally will not understand what you are going through, and will go through, but people on this forum will, so stay strong and keep posting, someone will answer.
It is so hard, so lonely, and understanding what you are likely to go through may help you, it has me. Look at the 5 stages of grief. They do not come one at a time, but at whatever time they want.
Don’t be afraid to cry, shout, scream, whatever, but also reach out if you need to. Try to go with it and don’t fight it or bottle it up. I have cried every day for 8 weeks now.
It’s utterly devastating losing you life partner and nothing can ever prepare you for it. Be kind to yourself, and take your time getting through it.
I have had signs that my wife is still around, and it has been quite comforting to me that i feel she has gone to a better place, and that i will see her again.
Sending love.
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Im sorry for your loss also, I’m definitely going through the motions 1 min I’m ok then I’m a total mess,I know its early days and I’ve got a long way to go just finding everything so overwhelming and my mental health isn’t doing to good.
No matter how long we think we have prepared ourselves for this it just hits you like a bus,didn’t think it would of happened as quick as it did xxx
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Rach1975
Nothing can prepare you for the loss of your loved one. I had been with my husband for 50 years, married for nearly 47 years, I knew it was going to be hard but this is on another level x
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Wow 50 years that’s incredible 
thats a long time. And your right its horrendous the pain it is on another level I thought losing my parents was hard but this is definitely something else. X
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Rach1975
Keep posting on here and you’ll get loads of support. Take care and remember you are not alone x
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My wife passed away in August last year after a brief 7 week battle with aggressive cancer. I love her so much and it will never fade. I was utterly destroyed back then, but after counselling and with family support I am very slowly getting there, as will you. 2 weeks is no time at all. Things will definitely get better. Unfortunately it definitely takes time. Counselling has helped me immensely.
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Rach1975
My wife went into hospital on 15th December last year. I thought that she would be home before her birthday on 22nd, but instead she had breathing issues and ended up on a ventilator on the 21st in Critical Care.
Before her death on 6th, she was taken off the sedation and for one day she was off the ventilator. She had some humour, she was holding peoples hands and waving at people. Within two days she had gone. She went back onto the ventilator, then onto dialysis, and finally, her liver (a condition she had for 23 years) failed, and so did her other organs. I had to take the decision to let her go as peacefully as possible. It was the hardest decision i have ever made, but i knew it was the right one.
I have been a mess ever since. I am so emotionally exhausted. I am back at work but am only working part days when i feel up to it. It is staggeringly hard to live without her, and for the first few days i struggled to recall any good memories, which sent me into a bit of a panic. Niw, i am starting to remember the good things, and try to push the bad ones to the back of my mind.
Wishing you all the best in your journey through this terrible time.
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My wife left her body on the 29th of January 2025 which was our 37th wedding anniversary. In the Buddhist tradition 37 is the number of wings to freedom (or steps to enlightenment) And, like all the other people here, I am completely devastated. We know that logically it’s going to happen one day but nothing can prepare you for when it does.
A 52 minute video that I found very helpful is called Living With out the one you can’t live without. (YouTube)
I wish you well in dealing with your huge loss.
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Thank you 
I’m sorry for your loss it’s so hard isn’t it,we wasn’t taught how to live without them and that’s the hardest part I’ve never felt so alone xxx
Sorry for your loss,it’s the worst feeling ever I’ve never felt so lost and empty a hollow feeling,I’m an emotional wreck life is so hard
Yes it is horrible. There is suddenly a huge hole in your life that cannot be filled.
I am not hugely religious, but feel that we will meet again. This has given me some comfort.
It is always the good ones who go early too. The ones who least deserve it. My wife did everything to try and prolong her life. 23 years of scans, blood tests, endoscopies, MRIs, CT scans, hospital appointments and a couple of hospital stays. She took every tablet that she was told, and tried to keep herself in pretty good shape. She died having just turned 62. Other people smoke, drink, eat poorly, don’t go to doctors appointments and are massively unfit, but they survive into their 80s and 90s. There is no fairness and it can be a very cruel world.
But it is not just about those who die, but the utter devastation it leaves on the people left behind, especially their partners which is the hardest to take.
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I am reading a book currently called Heavenly Realms by John Allen. Only 134 pages, but it talks about Heaven and the afterlife, and is quite an interesting read.
It talks about how each of the large religions gave an idea of heaven, but many who have near death experiences all say the same thing, no matter what religion they follow, so maybe there is truth in it.
My wife was a non practising Catholic, but was desperate last year to get some Rosary Beads and to have them blessed. When we were visiting Norfolk we found a shop at Walsingham Abbey, and she had them blessed at the chapel. I had them buried with her as i thought she would have wanted them on her.
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My wife was the same. She ate far healthier than me, kept up regular exercise yet she had only just turned 57 when she died. Yet I am still here. I agree it’s a cliche saying the good die young but it certainly rings true.
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Keep posting on here. Day or night. We all understand what you are going through. We are still going through it so we really do understand. There will always be someone here who will reply. It’s so very hard, but you are not alone xxx
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