Hello all I’m new here. As I’m standing in the kitchen batch cooking meals trying to stop myself from breaking down multiple times. I lost my nan 7 months ago and my mom on Monday. It was sudden. I’m utterly heartbroken and don’t know how to even go about life anymore without her. Watching my dad sit at an empty table just staring into space is gut wrenching. I know people say it gets easier, but wow, this hurts. Feel like my heart is on the outside of me.
Hello @Samantha27 ,
I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your mum and nan that brings you here. How devastating and heartbreaking for you to lose them so close together.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Hi, I’m so sorry for your loss.
Lost my mum 4 days ago and it feels like one of my bad dreams that I need to wake up from. I miss her voice and our banters. I miss her loud songs in the mornings and her prayers after morning greetings. I miss everything… I just want one last hug and hear her voice one more time.
Thank you. I’m also so sorry for your loss. I agree I keep waking up everyday angrily telling myself to wake up, this has been a long dream now stop taking the p.but it’s almost a week now and my heart knows it’s not a dream. My mom went suddenly and it’s a hard pill to swallow, I will miss how loud she was, how demanding, and how funny she was without trying to be. I am scared of what this new normal looks like, everyone says it will get better don’t they? It’s really hard to believe that. Are you trying to keep yourself busy? As I know how long the days must feel now.
I am unable to keep myself busy. My siblings are there, I have to be strong for them. My dad too. Maybe when my big sis is back from abroad, I’d be able to grief before we bury her. Day 4, and I’m trying so hard to not feel guilty when I laugh at something funny or eat. I know she would want us to be happy. But how can I? I feel like I have lost the will to live. It’s like a part of me is gone…. Taken from
Me forcefully. My mum loved me with all my weirdness and confusion… and she supported me no matter what. And omg! She was so beautiful that I’m almost jealous of her beauty. So beautiful. It’s a cruel world tbh. People tell me god knows best… but how is taking my mum the right thing to do? I keep asking why he didn’t save her. She was so religious and believed God so much even when I stopped being religious. She prayed always. Why? I keep hoping to see her in my dreams.