I lost my eight year old daughter suddenly five days before Christmas Day. I can’t listen to her songs without crying. I am lost without her. She was a big part of my life. She was always happy with a big smile on her face. She was everyone’s friend. She was clever and sweet. She has a big heart. She was there for everyone. She was special. She is missed. I still feel like I want to be with her.
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Hello @Ann157 ,
I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter that brings you here.
You say you are feeling lost without her and that you want to be with her. It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to share how you’re feeling with us. It is very normal for people who are grieving to feel a bit lost and not know where to start. I wanted to share some sources of support that might help you right now.
We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving, and it is often about wanting the person who has died back or life to go back to how we know it. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:
https://griefguide.sueryder.org/support/suicide
There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.
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If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.
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You can call 111 and choose the mental health option to speak to a trained mental health professional (England, Scotland and Wales only)
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Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.
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Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.
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You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline.
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Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: sueryder.org/counselling.
You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.
You may also find the following a good source of support
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Child Bereavement UK support families with the loss of a child. They also support bereaved children. You can call their helpline on 0800 02 888 40.
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The Compassionate Friends support families who have lost a child of any age. They have a grief companion scheme where you can get 1-1 support from another bereaved parent. You can call them on 0345 123 2304.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
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Hi Anne 147
I’m so sorry you have lost your daughter I k ow the pain you are in. I too lost my daughter ( I can’t say the d word) 12 days before her 8th birthday it’s just past 2 years and i don’t know how I’ve got to this point in time I have just floated through my heart aching and missing her laugh her smile her voice just everything about her thinking how is this my life now it shouldn’t be like this. I just wanted to reach out to you to say you are not alone I truly understand your pain X
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