Lost my mother but cold family members

Coping with bereavement
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I’m finding it difficult to process my grief with the remaining members of my family at home. They are not as warm as my mother was, sometimes lacking empathy, cold or distant, or emotionally unavailable. Sometimes, I feel my thoughts are being read. They don’t feel like family members sometimes, but strangers. Sometimes, it’s different. It is strange. I hope I’m not alone in this it feels very, well, difficult to deal with. I miss the humanity of my mother. She was warm, empathetic and considerate. She died recently, as I explained in an earlier post, of a serious illness. Now, she’s gone, it feels that my rock that I turned to for help, guidance, reassurance, and wisdom, has gone. I feel lost and anxious,

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Hi @Gerarde,

Thank you so much for sharing this with the community :blue_heart: I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard and you are not alone.

Take good care,

Naoise

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Your life has changed much with the loss of your mother
No wonder you feel anxious with out this so important loving person in your life
I know I felt devastated
Even now 41 years later I feel sorry for you after knowing how hard it can be
If you can find one other person who can share this with you it won’t matter if they are not family
Sometimes people protect themselves from painful feelings and it comes across as cold
Take care xx

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Hi @Naoise,

Thank you. It is comforting to know others understand me. There must be people out there that can help.

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Hi @Redsquirril25,

Thank you for sharing that me. As you say we can find people who will care or show more understanding without them being family members.

Thanks and take care x