Lost my mum and dad

I lost my mum 10 weeks ago and my dad a week ago … I’m a 36 year old mum of 4 boys and I have a amazing partner and loads of aunties etc … But I’m struggling I wake up each day dreading the day… I have developed terrible anxiety and IBS…. Life seems so hard my kids keep me going but I just feel like a bad mum and so sad. X


Hello Neekagx,

I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your mum and your dad that brings you here. This must be an incredibly difficult thing to go through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help you right now.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief

  • Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS

  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through

You mention having anxiety and IBS and I just wanted to say that it’s really normal for grief to have a physical and mental impact on your body. If it’s helpful, we have an article here that talks about this a bit more: Sue Ryder Grief Guide There are other articles on Grief Guide that you might find helpful to have a read of too.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

I’m sorry you lost your parents but glad you have support. Grief is so isolating even with help. Please be gentle with yourself. Your not letting anyone down. Your allowed to feel lost and low etc
It’s important you honour your feelings.
I lost my mum and I felt very lost and still do in big waves. Emotions all over the place, one minute fine the next so upset. I hope you find support so you can speak about it. I got help from St wilfreds and it helped. After a few months I got books from Elizabeth kuebler Ross on bereavement. It helped me understand what I was and anyone goes through at a time of such loss. I’ve now come on here as feel talking to people will aid helping eachother. Take care