hi i have just joined as im struggling after losing my mum 3 months ago. This was very unexpected and she died in front of my eyes. im struggling and i feel very lost and the pain i feel is unbearable. Im crying everyday and the pain is very raw. me and my mum were very close. people keep saying it will get easier but it does not feel like it to me.
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I’m sorry for your loss. No solutions to offer but you’re not alone - I know how you feel. I lost my Mum suddenly 3 months ago too and if anything, it feels like it’s getting harder every day. I fluctuate between not believing it’s real to vividly re-living her death. I feel heartbroken and traumatised and don’t know how I’ll ever feel better about it.
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Hello, oh no i im so very sorry for your loss to, its a very very awful experience to go through. Seems were feeling very similer! how we get through this i dont evan know. i will be hoping we can eventually get through this very painful and awful time. take care xxx
Just try to take it one day at a time - I think that’s all we can really do! It feels so overwhelming when I think about all the future years and times together we have lost out on. Look after yourself xx
Hello to you both.
I’m so sorry for you both losing your Mums. I’m in a similar situation as I lost my Mum suddenly and unexpectedly just over 4 months ago. At first it was numbness and getting through the days like a robot. But then, about 3 weeks ago, the reality hit me. I miss my Mum so so much and I’m crying every day for the loss of her and the life we had together.
But I have learnt to take it one step at a time and take all the help I’ve been offered. I joined a bereavement support group and am due to receive some counselling in the near future.
There’s nothing I can say to make it easier, just keep going as best you can and allow whatever feelings you have to just come out. Turn to family and friends when you need to.
Sending you both love 
and hugs 
. Take care of yourselves and remember you are not alone. Plenty of others here understand what you are going through and are here to help.
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hello and im very sorry for your lose to!! thank you for your message and i hope you will be ok to! its long painful road ahead for us all without our dearest of mums. you take very good care of yourself and thank you once again xxx
My Mum died infront of me 6 months ago - she had a catastrophic heart attack while we were snorkelling in the sea. I had nightmares re-living the event for weeks and I couldn’t sleep or eat properly. 6 months on the pain is still there and I think about her every day. I don’t think I will ever get over it but I think you do start to get used to it. Hope everyone has a better 2026.