Lost my mum

My mum sadly passed away on the 5th November. I was my mums carer since I was 11, I am now 25. In the last 8 years we have spent every day with each other. I still lived with my mum when she sadly passed. I have family and friends around me but I’m really struggling with the loss. The longest I’ve been away from my mum was 2 weeks. I don’t know how I’m going to live without my mum. I’m really struggling with this loss.

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Hi Shann, my heart goes out to you, your Mum is a special person and the one person who loves and knows you the best of everybody
, and when they are gone it’s devastating, it’s very early days, just take a day at a time, some days will be better than others, accept help when offered, try and get out in the fresh air every day if you can, it does help, sending love Jude x

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Sorry Shan to read of your loss. I lost my Mum four days ago and had been a carer. Not for very long so I can imagine how lost even the practical side of things must be making you feel. At the moment for me time isn’t registering, It’s just space that doesn’t seem real. Haven’t even had service yet. I wish I had something helpful to say and I’m sure there’ll people on the forum that will be able to add their thoughts. Keep going Shan

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Thank you so much xx

Thank you xx

Hi Shann . I’m really sorry for the loss of your mum . I was my mum’s carer for 26 years and she passed away 6 months ago . I am devastated and lost without her . I’m sorry to say it hasn’t got any easier for me , its a long and difficult road . We will never get over the loss of our mum’s , the person who brought us into this world . All you can do is keep getting out of bed and keep fighting . I carry on to make my mum proud and you will do that too . Take good care of yourself . Sending love and strength .
Angie xx

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Hi Shann, I absolutely felt like I was reading my own post then, everything you said I can relate, I’ve been my mums carer for so long and now I’m so lost, it’s like loosing 2 identity’s a career and a son/daughter. It’s been 10 months for me and I can’t see things getting easier, it’s so hard, as you say we was with our mum everyday, how are supposed ti get used to this I don’t know, all ppl say is you learn to live with it, I can’t learn to live like this, anyway I’m sending my condolences and letting you know we are not alone with these feelings

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Hi I lost my mum on Christmas Day and I’m
finding hard to come to terms with it seems unreal.
Mum had many health issues but was a fighter to the end. She died suddenly

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Hi I’ve lost my mum on the 30th November 2021 to cancer and pneumonia. I was with my mum all through her diagnosis and treatment. I can completely understand how you are feeling it’s so hard and when you have been with your mum from the start. I’m struggling to sleep at night and to focus and concentrate day by day and the pain you go through everyday is going to be hard.

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I fully understand your pain too .At the moment it seems very unreal . I spoke to her Christmas morning and by the afternoon she was gone . I was with my mum too as she struggled her battle with lung fibrous and heart failure she was suffering a lot …
It has not sunk in yet I feel like I’m dreaming.

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I feel the same too. She seems like she’s here with me but she’s not. It’s so hard to concentrate and focus day by day. If ever want to talk I’m here to listen.

Yes I’m the same I feel like she’s here . I’m so lost I used to talk to her everyday 7 days a week and go visit her every week . It’s so hard to believe.
Same applies I’m here if you want to talk . We can comfort each other

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Yeah if you ever want to talk just pop me a message. I feel so lonely sometimes and lost but I’ve got loads of family and friends around me. But all I want is my mum

Thank you same applies . I’m so glad I joined this group where we can share our thoughts and feelings.
Let’s find comfort for our mums that they are in no more pain . They will be with us where ever we go

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Exactly they will be with us forever and forever and also their memories will continue forever aswell

@Riley2013

I can totally relate to the speed of everything as my mum text me on the day she died asking if I would be visiting her etc and I said 2pm and she was excited…2.15pm she had a heartattack and 4.15pm…gone :cry: x

The fact your mum passed away on Xmas day just seems to make it even more cruel and although words seem cheap I am truly sorry you have had to join this ‘club’ but so many people here to try help you navigate this journey we never asked for x

Be kind on yourself x

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Thank you for your lovely message . I’m sorry for your loss too .Life can be so cruel .We can all take comfort in this group and lean on each other. I can’t believe she’s gone just seems unreal abs has not sunk in yet.
Mum was my best friend my souls mate my rock I will miss her so much .

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Well feel free to keep in touch as we’re all here for each other x

Yes we can be here for each other x

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I’m here if you want chat. Feel free to message me