Lost my mum

I lost my mum in may 2020. I have struggled so much since then. We didn’t have a close relationship, and through her choice she decided not to keep contact with me for many many years. When I found out she was terminally ill I went to the hospital, we hadn’t seen each other for over 5 years. From that day I went everyday I could to see her until she died. I just can’t help going over why she cut me out of her life for so long, I am not a bad person, I am married with children, work hard my own house. Never asked for anything from her, she never came to my wedding, saw my newborn daughter, christnings. She had a very complicated life and was headstrong. I know time has passed since she passed but times are really tough for me.

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Hello @Mace77,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,


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