That is so sad Dowkes. My husband managed to whisper I love you twice just before he went and then kind of flapped his hand like he was waving goodbye and then he went. That memory is both comforting and heart wrenching at the same time and I keep reliving it.
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I think that sounds like guilt that he wasnāt there himself to do anything. Donāt worry because you know you did your best.
It is four weeks today since my darling husband was taken from me. I wake up in the morning and pray to God that he will help me through the day. The slightest comment from others, memories of our life together and even when out and about I find myself dissolving into tears. The grief is indescribable and only those going through this know how it feels. I really would not wish such pain on my worst enemy (I donāt have any, thank goodness). I am constantly being told that āthings will get betterā but, for now I cannot see beyond the haze of grief. Taking one day at a time is all we can do but I would give my life to be with my husband right now. Thinking of you.
It is four weeks today since my darling husband passed. I know that it is very early days for me and to have not yet arrived at the point of acceptance. For now I would give my life to be with my husband. I am so heartbroken and continue to find it difficult to function. NOTHING looks or feels the same since I became a widow and I ask myself āwhy go onā. I have to because of my daughter, who has been magnificent, and my grandchildren. I never cease to be amazed at how many others there are who are suffering our horrible pain and take comfort that I (and you) are not alone in our grief. Taking one day at a time is our answer for now. Thinking of you.
Thank you for your kind reply Salvia
cariad fy mywyd a ffrind gorau are my words for my wife.
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Dwiān really dealt. Oān iān teimloār oān faith am Nick. Xx
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How u doing Jason. Itās bloody hard.
I still get upset when I pass special places, go on our walk and break down unexpectedly for no reason, but Iām coping. We should have been flying out to Lanzarote tomorrow for 11 days but instead I will be spreading lynneās ashes up Elidir the mountain near us. I hope I will be strong.
Hi Jason hope today goes as well as it can I scattered my husbandās last week ā¦itās not easy but I found some comfortā¦hugs to you x
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Iām so glad that I have a fantastic son and daughter, mother and father in law, sister in law and great friends. I live by Snowdon and the people in the village have been affected as well also very supportive. Lynne was such a flawless wife and best friend. She should still be here, she died due to the incompetence of a surgeon during a routine operation.
Oh Jason Iām so sorry u must be so angryā¦I donāt care what any one says life is not fairā¦your wife sounds like she was very lovedā¦family are so key at this time ā¦if it hadnāt been for my little boy and girl I donāt know what I would have doneā¦they are only four and five an have been my strengthā¦in the last 10 weeks since I lost my husband ā¦your lucky u have ur in laws as well mine have not been so great ā¦be easy on your self today
Iāve joined a Facebook support group ( widows north Wales) obviously itās a small group of people in the surrounding area that have dealt or dealing with losing someone and they meet up every few months, it might be worth while finding a local group like that, it might help. As well I have started counselling, I donāt feel any benefits yet but I know that it can take time. I find weekendās the worst as the weekend was ours, shopping, walks, meals and days out, I just feel lost at the moment, I feel privileged and proud to have spent 27 years with Lynne and hopefully we will be one again someday.
That sounds great I live in a North Wales ā¦abergeleā¦I only very find real comfort talking to people that are going through the same thing ā¦I also dread the weekendā¦my husband worked hard but always the weekend was family time ā¦always something to look forward to a little trip ā¦ everything has changed ā¦ And I just get through the day now
If you are on facebook I can add you to the group. Iāve not met up with them yet but I know two of them. Itās an option for you to look at, after all it could help.
Hi Jason Iām not in Facebook but if u get any details it would be great if u could forward them on
Hi, you will have friends on Facebook, ask one of them to search for widows north Wales, Iām not a great fan of Facebook but it can be usefull.
Yeah I will doā¦thatās is exactly why donāt have it ā¦never understood face book each to there own
I scattered some of Lynneās ashes on Elidir on Sunday, this was a favorite walk of ours. I shed tears of sadness because she is not with me and tear of joy remembering the 27 years that we were together. Iām still having good days and bad days and yesterday I broke down outside next knowing that I bought her summer clothes for her birthday to wear in Lanzarote where we should have flew out on Sunday. I have postponed my prostate cancer op until January as mentally I donāt think I could cope at the moment. The way I feel at times is when I get upset is if I had the chance I would join her straight way and to be honest I have no fear of dying my-self, all I feel at the moment is that I am surviving and not living and if something were to happen to me then so be it. In no way do I have any suicidal thoughts or feel that iām a danger to my-self or anyone else because my kids are my main priority and I love them so much. Is this normal to feel this way. I feel so empty, lost and lonely.