Hi everyone, I have just joined this group in the hope just to be able to chat to people who feel the same way I do.
I lost my partner yesterday, he was only 43 and was diagnosed 7 weeks ago . Myself and my daughter are absolutely broken. He went into hospital 4 weeks ago struggling to breath and never came home again. We have been inseparable for 10 years and I miss him so so much.
So sorry. Just keep talking to him and try to go on
Hello Kelmarie,
I am sorry to hear this, everything is so raw for you right now I hope you have some good friends and family who can help you with all the arrangements that have to be done. When I lost my David after 30 yrs of togetherness on November 10th 2024 I was completely alone , my siblings traversed the country to get to me on the south coast, between them they did everything I was broken. I sincerely hope you have good people with you. This site is a lifeline in so many ways everyone on here is or has been on this path we all identify with what your going through don’t bottle your feelings up talk on here. The early days are hard trying to understand what and why trying to make sense of it all. I really hope you have good people around you giving you and your daughter the support you need to get through this truly awful time.
Bless you and your daughter
Hello, I lost my partner 2 months ago aged just 58, and there are no words I can offer that will make it easier for you. I have recently found this group and writing things down, venting on here does help. No one will judge you, no one will laugh at the things you do. Sending hugs to you & your daughter.
Thank you for your kind words. I am absolutely broken and can’t stop crying at the moment. I have alot of loved ones around me but I still feel so lonely.
Hi KelMarie,
Sending you hugs. I lost my husband 5 months ago. Those first weeks are such a fog full of pain and not understanding the world anymore.
There are no words to make this better. Only the knowledge that all of us, who went through something similar, are still going. We all express intense feelings of being alone. But hopefully from the responses you get here, you can see that you will feel alone, but we are all here to reach out to.
For me, having this space to share is helpful. I hope it helps you a little too!
KelMari,
My heart goes out to both you and your daughter. This is such a traumatic time in your lives we can all empathise with, having gone through the pain you are experiencing . We have probably all joined this group out of sheer desperation for help to get us through without judgement.
My advice to you as a nurse (having been suddenly robbed of my lovely husband 4 months ago) is to expect to cry unashamedly , be sad, angry, anxious, numb, exhausted, intolerant and all other negative emotions. You’ll be in a ‘fog’, so making decisions is more difficult. The physical pain and disturbances are equally unpleasant .
Be kind to yourselves and don’t be too proud to accept help from those who want to support you both. Sleep deprivation is common so nap when you can. Eat little and often and try to ensure you keep well hydrated and clean.
I too , only have one child and so we cry together, made the necessary plans and decisions and protect each other.
We are on our own personal journeys which will take as long as it takes to feel stronger and able to enjoy life again. I’m writing this at 01.45 
and still am unable to accept and make sense of my situation. Just take unrushed gentle steps at a time and look after yourselves. 
We1shl1dy, all you say is so true. 2 months since I lost my partner, and over Christmas and new year I feel like ive gone backwards, im struggling to sleep again, ive lost my appetite again, and the anger and sadness is nearly as bad as it was when she first passed. Im sat outside of my work place at 5.30am and wondering how im supposed to get through the day.
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It’s such a dreadful experience we are going through and I can’t imagine having to go to work at your early stage . Although, work gives us some sort of purpose and routine .
I too ,think the ‘holiday’ has knocked me back and increased the sense that I am no longer half of a couple. My close friend has wisely told me to consider 2026 as a ‘healing year’ so I’m going to try to focus on that and hope that the ‘weight of the world’ will lighten.
No doubt , you will get through the day and I hope you manage to sleep better tonight.
I’ll be thinking of you💕
We1sh1lady, I actually went back to work 4 weeks after my partner passed away, I could have taken more time off, but decided it was better going back and occupying my mind, it does to a certain degree, but even now I dread going in, but then again I dread everything. I walked along the seafront yesterday afternoon, it was full of families, couples & dogs….. it was torture. I want to shut myself away but that would achieve nothing. We are damned if we do and damned if we dont.
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I totally understand what you are saying. It was a lovely day yesterday and we would have been walking on the beach . Good for you for getting out. I too feel totally lost , but it’s still very early days in the grief process, although I have seemed to have lost all sense of time.
I hope your work colleagues are supportive and sensitive to your needs. Little steps remember
We1sh1ady
Well when I thought it couldn’t get worse, ive dropped my ipad on the bathroom floor & its now not working, it has hundreds of pictures & video of my partner on it, im at the point of giving up now. I have no children, no dependants and frankly, im failing to see the point of anything right now
Technocrats can work wonders. I would be surprised if you cannot get your precious photos back. Try not to despair.
Yes try not to despair, a lot of photos get automatically downloaded to the Cloud so you will be able to access them elsewhere & you never know left overnight, give it a charge tomorrow & it might work.
I lost my husband 5 days ago at aged 54. He’d been ill for a year and I know he was sick of being sick and knowing there was no prospect of getting better.
But he has left me here, alone, and wondering what the point of anything is. I know it’s early days, and I have grieved deeply before. But this time feels different. I honestly don’t know if it’s truly worth putting one foot in front of the other.
It is worth it. One step at a time. Even that is an achievement - not easy … but worth it.
It’s beyond difficult when your the one left behind, I lost my.dad & then my husband within months & I had similar feelings that you’ve expressed.
Fir a long time I was bitter that I’d been left behind but I thought I’ve got no choice but to try & see little wins like enjoying a doughnut, I know it sounds silly but it gave me comfort
I feel one day I’ll see them all again so I’ve just got to go on until then.
I lost my Fiancé of 8 years last night. He was 54 and had been ill for 6 weeks. I dont know how I am going to get through this pain. Losing him has set a chain reaction in motion that will bring more heartache, financial and emotional trauma my way. I dont want to face it without him behind me, if I didn’t have kids still living at home, I think I could easily run away.
I’m so sorry to hear this. My situation is very similar to you. If it wasn’t for our little girl I don’t know what I would have done. My advice to you is take each hour as it comes. Try not to think about decisions that need to be made yet and give yourself time. Look after yourself..x
The pain is so real. I would not have believed it could be so real had I not experienced it and still am experiencing it. If you were to run away, the pain would still be with you. You recognise your children need you and you would not forgive yourself. Try to take a small measure of comfort from this website because so many of us are rallying round to envelope each other as we all grieve together.