Lost my precious son

Losing a child
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I lost my 21 year old son to suicide 2 weeks ago .
I don’t know what to do . How can I go on ?
I have to arrange his funeral but I can’t even think straight .

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Hello @Tilly13 ,

I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your precious son that brings you here.

You say you are feeling like you don’t know what to do and can’t think straight. I wanted to share some sources of support that might help you right now.

  • Child Bereavement UK support families with the loss of a child. They also support bereaved children. You can call their helpline on 0800 02 888 40.

  • The Compassionate Friends support families who have lost a child of any age. You can call them on 0345 123 2304

Sue Ryder also has some resources which can help you cope with grief.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,

Alex

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Hi Justine, my apologies for you having to wait for a reply, Im so sorry no one was here to see your post earlier.
I’m so deeply sorry to hear of the sudden loss of your 21 year old son, there are really no words for the loss of your child. The pain is horrific, you have my heartfelt sympathies.
How are you managing? I do hope you have had support as you made the arrangements.
Sending my love and thoughts to you, take care x

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I cannot provide any support but im in same situation, my son choose to end his life last week, you are not alone, giving you a big hug.

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@Taff im so sorry.

I am now 6 weeks in . We had the funeral on Friday .
All I am doing is taking each day as it comes and not thinking ahead at all . That’s how I am coping .
Please keep posting on here as although it won’t change things is might ease your pain slightly to know you are not on your own .
The compassionate friends website is also worth looking at as they have lots of info and a forum and it is just for people who have sadly lost children .

Take care

xx

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Taff, please accept my deepest and most heartfelt sympathies. I am so sorry for your loss

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Thank you, the GP gave me some sleeping tablets today, but not sure if ill take them, i need to be alert for my 27 year old. Husband keeps going through his purchase history and all email to see what me missed. Im not sure that will help. Coroner called today, inquest should be next April. Not even thought about a funeral director yet. Take care

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@Taff we didn’t do anything for 4 weeks as we could not even comprehend the fact our son had gone . We were just too shocked and dazed and devastated .
You do not need to rush into sorting the funeral . You have a lot to get your head around .
Do not expect too much of yourselves . You are going through a massive trauma .
The death of a child is horrendous but with suicide their are so many extra layers to the grief you will be feeling .

Take care xx

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Thank you, we saw a natural burial site today, but custodian kept going on about DIY service, pick him up ourselves, dont think we could do that. They mentioned using his quilt as a shroud but that was where i last saw him lying on his bed, i know i will need to change his bed eventually but for his funeral

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I am so sorry of your loss. I lost my son in March to a drugs overdose. Do you have anyone to help you arrange the funeral. Please take it hour by hour. We are all on here to help each other. This site has been a life line to me. Big hug xx