Five months on since loosing my darling dad. Had a massive set back this week and found Father’s Day unbearable. Felt so alone and angry that my dad had to die the way he did. I’ve got do many dark thoughts feel like I have no purpose and wonder what the point is in carrying on.
I find all social situations hard work near impossible and life just feels like it’s passing me by. I don’t know what to do
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Hi @Bridget24 ,
I’m so sorry to hear about your darling dad. It sounds as though things are very tough and you found Father’s Day incredibly difficult and are feeling angry and that you have no purpose.
It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to talk about how you’re feeling here. We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:
https://griefguide.sueryder.org/support/suicide
There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.
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If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.
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Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.
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Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.
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You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline.
Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: sueryder.org/counselling.
You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.
You deserve care and support so please, @Bridget24 , get in touch with one of these services.
Take care,
Alex
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Hi @Bridget24, how are you coping this week after Father’s Day? I’m 10 months into losing mum and feel like I’m about to fall apart again when and as I approach the 1 year anniversary. It’s so hard isn’t it? Sending hugs and warm wishes that you are coping and ok x😘
@VictoriaB1 so very sorry for your loss. I’ve felt hideous this week after Father’s Day and like I just want to hide away from the world. Feeling immense pressure to just get on with things and be happy but I can’t find joy in anything and it’s not through lack of trying xx
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It’s so difficult @Bridget24
I feel as people think it’s 10 months now Vic so you should be back to my old self. I don’t think I’ll ever be myself again. Never really knew it until she had gone, but mum was the wind beneath my wings xx
Hoping for a positive day for us all xx
Hi @VictoriaB1
What you said in your post absolutely nailed how i feel. I too would have never believed how hard life would be without mum. I guess unless they are ill you never really think about how life will be without them. For me its nearly 4 months and i feel so empty
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