The anniversary of my sister’s death is here and this week has been particularly tough. I can’t stop thinking of her. I have two other siblings, but they don’t talk about her so this is why I joined here. I’m not sure how to move forward, but I know this is the only way because the alternative is not really an option, it’s full of overthinking and sadness. I see the world differently now. Is this normal? Any suggestions are welcome. Thank you.
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Hi @Missmysis,
I’m sure someone will be along to share their thoughts, but I just wanted to say thank you for so bravely sharing this with us. 
I thought that you may find this Sue Ryder article helpful as you navigate this week. Remembering a loved one: death anniversary | Sue Ryder
Keep reaching out
Alex
Hi Missmysis
Yes, the anniversaries do seem to heighten our emotions.
It’s 4 years since my sister passed away and I still think of her and miss her every single day. I am lucky because I had/have my parents and siblings to talk to so I can see how hard it must be for you not to be able to talk to them.
Yes I think we do maybe see the world differently. She was my only sister so I can sometimes see others with their sisters and envy them which I wouldn’t have before.
By some weird coincidence my Mum passed away on Monday which happened to be the 4th Ann of my sisters funeral and I am now left with no female relatives so I can imagine that feeling is going to intensify.
Stay connected to the group and build a life around your grief . There is space for that too
Hi Kaceym,
Thank you for your message. Firstly, it’s almost incomprehensible that you’ve lost your mum (and sister) and so recently on the same date as your sister’s 4th year funeral anniversary. I’m deeply sorry to hear this.
I’d like to thank you for saying that we can create a life around our grief. I’ve not heard it put that way before and it’s hugely comforting knowing it’s ok and not something you just stop doing at an unknown end point, but we can carry grief with us into the life we build.
I think this site is a good way to express some feelings and connect. Please continue to, particularly now.
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Thank you. And of course I had my moments of not wanting to move on and ‚leave her behind etc. but I know she didn’t want us to mourn etc and wanted us to lead a full life. I carry her with me wherever U am and take comfort knowing I can do so with my Mum