Hi my name is Debbie … This is the first time I’ve been on one of these groups. And reading the posts just made me cry!!! I lost my husband march 2025 and I still haven’t got over it!!!
We had a four year long battle as he had cancer of the throat and ended in him haveing a full larangectomy so he couldn’t speak, or breath properly but he fought on so hard. He never wanted to leave me because we loved each other so much. But now I have no one so Just had to post!
What do i do now?
Dear Debbie I am sorry to hear about your husband. My wife was given five months to live after a bile duct cancer diagnosis, fortunately for me she survived almost two years until she died in my arms on Christmas day. The pain was unbearable, I thought I was prepared for the worst but when she died I felt like was being ripped apart. I don’t think anyone understands how terrible it is to lose your loved one. Someone who has grown to becoming one with you, I hope you find some solace here where everyone understands the pain of a bereavement.
Thinking of you and sending hugs
Wishing you all the best Tom
Thank you.. I now can’t read this site due too tears 
but im glad you answered.
I miss him so much and don’t think anyone really knows what it’s like. I’ve never been on my own and now feel so lost!!
Your tears from reading could be from realising you are not on your own with your desperate thoughts.
Yes it is so sad to read so many heartbreaking posts of ghosts of people from loosing their very being, their true love, their only one.
But there is also total understanding on the site and you could be able to unlease your deepest, darkest thoughts trapped in your tortured mind.
We are alll a bit nuts but golly we do have good reason to be.
X
Debbie,i am so sorry for your loss.I so hope this site will be of comfort to you.Everyone is so kind and caring, so understanding.We all can relate to how we all feel as we are all going through the same emotions, the grief and pain , emotionally, physically and mentally.We all genuinly understand.We may all have different circumstances and may be at differnt stages of our grief and have different ways of trying to carry on the best we can along the path we now find ourselves on.This site really has been a Godsend to me as i am literally on my own, only distant cousins and my disabled sister in law.My dear wife passed in February last year, suddenly here at home from a rare blood condition.We had no children.I dont think grief will ever leave us, it will always be there in some way.We just have to try and do the best we can, thats all we can do.Take things step by step, moment by moment.Please Debbie never feel alone,Always try and reach out to the kind understanding people on this site.There will always be someone to give you support and advice from the SR staff/moderators to the lovely people on here.
Please look after yourself Debbie.
Debbie, so sorry for your loss. I lost my Jackie in March 2025 and we’ll never ‘get over it’. A friend of mine sent me this link to a song by Willie Nelson, that helped me understand a little.
Like others say, you are not on your own, so take care
Thank you so much.I’m not used to talking to people about anything like thisThank you so much. I’m not used to talking to people about anything like this, so i’m not good at replying, but thank you for your message.
I just seem to be doing nothing at the moment. And waiting for I don’t know whatI just seem to be doing nothing at the moment. And waiting for I don’t know what?? I don’t go out. I don’t see friends. I don’t have anyone only my mum who’s not very well herself. As my dad passed away this year as well, I just don’t know what to do.
Thank you for that song its lovely and so true x
Debbie, I am so very sorry for your loss.
I am on week 5 without my partner, it was his funeral yesterday & it was one of the most hardest days of my life.
I have found this site very helpful over the past weeks & also knowing other people understand what I am going through has helped.
Hi Debbie, so sorry for your loss. It’s hard, I lost my partner in September 2025, he died suddenly. Going into the second year is much harder than I thought it would be. I feel I’ve regressed a lot since his first anniversary. You say you have no one and that makes it so much harder. Have you tried joining a widows’ or some other type of group? I know it may not appeal, but it would give you a bit of human interaction.
Grief is such a horrible emotion, especially when you’ve lost the person who made your life worthwhile. Personally I think I will carry it forever. I’ve read that the second year can be worse as reality kicks in that this our lot now. I try to get out and about during the day but my best time is the evening when I can distract myself with the TV. Mornings are bad as I feel very anxious. I don’t know if you’d consider counselling, some have said it helps. I’m sorry you’re hurting so much and hope you find a way through this. Take care.
