lost my son and daughter

my son was 9 when he passed away i was 6 months pregnant when he left this world he died from an infection that shut all his body down 6 weeks after my son passed i went into labour had my daughter 10 early she was doin great then at 6 days old her little body gave up i had to say good bye to yet another child how do i cope with this its been a year now since both my babies left my arms and stills feels like yesterday help

Hello and welcome to the Sue Ryder Online Community,

I’m so sorry to hear that both your son and your baby daughter passed away - I can’t imagine how terrible that must be.

This site is a place to write honestly about how you are feeling and get support from others who have lost loved ones. For example, you may wish to read and reply to this post from Anna, who also lost a baby shortly after birth: https://support.sueryder.org/community/coping-death-loved-one/still-numb-and-living-haze

There are also some other organisations that offer specialist support to people who have lost a child - you may find it helpful to contact some of these as well:

  • The Compassionate Friends - offers support after the loss of a child of any age, with a telephone helpline (
    0345 123 2304), local support and online support.

  • The Compassionate Friends supports families after the loss of a child of any age with a telephone helpline (0800 02 888 40), telephone counselling and face-to-face support in some parts of the country.

  • SANDS supports anyone affected by the death of a baby with a helpline (0808 164 3332), online forum and local support groups.

If you have any questions or need any help with this Online Community, just let me know.

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