Iv joined this community as 8 weeks ago my
Whole entire existence/world fell apart. My
Husband who i should of celebrated 20 years being together this October was cruelly taken from me and our 3 children following a 6 week battle with cancer… he just turned 40 and we had forever planned and now I feel like I’m living a nightmare and so lost and broken.
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Hi @Scarl34
Sorry to here of your loss and so young.
It seems like we dont know whats ahead of us anymore. I know your children will be grieving too and you have to be stong for everyone.
Take one hour ar a time as now two days will now be the same.
Take care and be kind to yourself take help from family and friends.
You can always put your feelings down on this forum someone will always be here to listen x
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Sorry to hear about your loss. I’m 8 months in and still hurting. I joined here today and following a bad day i can honestly say the messages here has helped me.
You are not alone and you can do it…
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Hi, they really are it’s truly heartbreaking! I’m just struggling with losing my best friend/soulmate/ husband but to see my children hurting losing their dad, their hero is destroying also. Thank you for the kind message x
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I’m sorry you are going through such heartache too! I just feel completely lost and so alone and scared of the future
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Hi @Scarl34 @Andy3
Sorry hope you get some sleep tonight although i am sure it wil be broken.
Every day is different now but sometimes you have to go backwards to go forward if that makes any sense. I’m 5 months on this path and i think even 5 years on times will come back when we feel down and upset.
Take care x
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Yes I know it will never go away… you take care too! Sending all my love x
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I am so sorry to be saying welcome to this club that none of us asked to join. Like you I lost the love of my life after we were told 6 to 8 weeks as a result of acute myeloid leukemia,it just happened so fast and the time was gone so I am now feeling I couldn’t have taken in what we were told,I thought I could save her etc,
Whatever you do forget the future for now,I know you have children to think of and care for but for now it’s about you surviving a day,an hour at a time so that they at least have you to get them through in any way that you can.
I cannot imagine the pain of your loss knowing your grief will come second to your children but somehow you will get through. Take care,all of us on this forum will be feeling so sad for you and wishing you the best.
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I’m so sorry you lost your wife also! It’s so heartbreaking and I cannot understand how someone’s life can change so suddenly.
I am trying to be strong for the children, but I also have a huge fear of what the future holds and how il manage, but I understand I need to try and focus on today, because after all we really never know what’s around the corner.
Thank you for making me feel welcomed here
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Having lost Lesley nearly 4 weeks ago, its her Cremation today. My world collapsed my heart broken to have lost my best friend and soul mate. Every day hurts. Thinking of everyone on here x
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Thinking of you today at such a difficult time! Shauns cremation was a truly heart wrenching day and it seemed so real he was gone and never coming back. It’s 8 weeks this Wednesday he was taken and I’m feeling lower and lower each day!
Sending all my love
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Thats how i feel each day worse than the last. The Celebrant taking the service was a bereavement Councillor, she rang me several times over the last few weeks and although its very upsetting, it does feel like some weight has been lifted. At least for awhile.I’m going to continue after today because i think she will help. You take care and message if you need a chat
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I’m glad you feel that is in some way a help? (I know it doesn’t make anything better but sometimes a little comfort from someone can help you through the day)
In my thoughts today!
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@Scarl34 so sorry for your loss, I lost my partner who was 42, 3 weeks ago to cancer. He fought so hard for a year with so much intervention and I just feel so lost without him. I have 2 teenage girls who need their mother but I just seen no future without him by my side, I’m taking a day at a time and hoping with time it will get easier although I just feel more and more lost every day that passes x
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I am so so sorry to you and your girls! I genuinely feel your pain and I wish there was some way of us being able to have our amazing husbands back in our lives! I miss him more and more each second and just can’t believe I have to do life without him x
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Every young partner I speak to feels the same we dread the years we have ahead of us and the futures we had planned for gone. That’s what hurts as well as the loss of the person the dreams we had and how we somehow have to carry on x glad you found this site it’s already been such a help to me.
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It’s cruel and I just don’t know how after 20 years I can even carry on without him. I’m glad I found this place. As much as I wish I never had to, it just gives me some comfort already to know there are people who I can speak to who actually understand and get it x
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Feel free to message any time, all here to support one another x
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Thank you so much x same to you x
Sadly my partner passed away after 17years of us together, I’m 32. The numbness I feel is crazy. I can’t grieve yet properly. I can’t even accept the fact she has left me. I don’t know what steps to take next, I have a large family support group that I appreciate, the pains in eatable at times
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