Lost my way completely in life and cant get out of it

Coping with bereavement
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In the last 11 years, I have lost all of my immediate family. I lost my mum in 2014, my dad in 2021, my sister 28 days later, and my last sister in April. I managed to piece my life back together after mum, because I still had the rest of my family. I found my dad passed away in his home in traumatic circumstances in 2021 and immediately suffered depression. 28 days later my sister died in her sleep unexpectedly. During this time, my other sister had developed cancer and survived until April. I witnessed her decline and her ultimate passing. I have my wife and 8 year old daughter but they are suffering because I’m suffering and even though I can see it, I am just completely lost as to how to claw my way out of this misery. I used to have hobbies, go to the gym, do DIY etc, but I just cant get the joy out of anything anymore. I have a daily thought of, if I just had a mate to talk to, someone to have a laugh and joke with, it would help, but I lost contact with all my mates years ago. I can get some of this from my wife but that mate to mate thing is missing and not quite the same with the missus. Probably a daft question but is anyone else in this position? Ive not spoken to anyone about how Im feeling mainly because theres just nobody to tell, and trying to get professional help is an absolute joke. I know theres got to be light at the end of the tunnel but how long is this tunnel?

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Talk with us on here. Sounds like a trip to your GP might be worth a try, too.

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So much loss for you, no wonder you are struggling. Maybe counselling would help you. I went for a few weeks about 4 months after my husband died . I think it helped just to be able to talk and cry for an hour without worrying about upsetting the person I was talking to. Going to the gym might help give you a focus and also meet others and form friendships? The GP suggestion is a good one too. Take care x

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Thanks for the replies,
I have been through the GP process, anti-depressants etc, however the AD’s had side effects I couldn’t cope with and had to gradually get myself off them.