Lost my wife

Losing a partner
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i have lost my wife due to cardiac arrest becaues she have blood clots, she did long air travel which cause of all problem.

we met in 2015 June very strange way and we build up relation slowly and finally we were very good friends you can say a best team. we deal a lot of impossibles together and make it possible.

we support each other everywhere and we live like two bodies and one personality. we chill, love and fight everyday. she was only close to my heart sometimes she say ''we both have no space in our heart for anyone else even if we love or hate we do eachother ‘’

she passed away 2nd of aug 2025, After her i feel i am nothing a dead body is walking, no meaning of life for me now. I feel i am useless and failed to protect her which i promise to do.

i try my best to come out of it but her thoughts coming like shock waves and i start hate everything even myself.

we spend time together even sit in car for hours and saying nothing just have company, watching movies together in car parked no where.

without her i feel alone no anyother relation or person can take her place, she was super intellgent, strong, and caring.

why people come in life if they leave you alone,

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Hello @nadim00786,

I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your wife that brings you here.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief

  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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Hi,
I feel you. I lost my husband of almost 27 yrs on 23rd August to cancer. We knew his death was coming but I’m utterly heartbroken. We have 2 adult children so I have to keep going but I’m not sure I want to without my soulmate. Have you got support?

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No we do not have kids we married in 2021 but unfortunately we dnt have

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Do you think you could reach out for support - friends, family, counsellor? It would help I’m sure. It’s helping me to be distracted with people at times.

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I have friends and her relatives but you know no other be can do anything it’s normal for other world they looking their own benefits.

But it’s ok if I need anything will contact you thank you

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Your heart is broken and your entire world changed in an instant. You lost your love, the future plans, the life you thought would be. All gone in an instant.

I suggest this is so traumatic and understandably so, that you are suffering deep grief and trauma.

Cry until the tears stop. It is the only way to heal your heart. When they stop, you can begin again.

In the meantime, pay the bills, eat nutritious food and rest when you can. You are in shock and it affects us mentally and physically.

Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve your way.

With love,

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I want to say to all that have lost their loved ones that it does get easier. It may not seem that way at the moment but it does get easier, not better , just easier.

I have moments when the grief of losing her washes over me, of course, but I remember her with love and affection and for all the good years she gave me. I was privileged to have known her and been part of each others life.

No matter what I did now or who I meet there will never be another like her. Part of my heart and mind is hers.

But unless I decide to just become a recluse and avoid others I have no choice but to continue with living a life that could include happiness. She would’ve want me to be happy I think. So I’m open to whatever and hopefully I can be happy again. Who knows?

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My husband didnt ant to die, kept saying he was coming home from hospital, he didnt want to leave me, but his body was just failing him. I have lost so many family members in a short space of time, I sit waiting for news of someone else having passed away. It does seem purposeless coming into this world if all we’re going to do is die.

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I have these awful dreams still , even though it’s 2 years since my Bridget died and 7 years since she refused to recognise me having dementia.

I realise I miss her still. I miss the easiness of a long and happy marriage where things were so straightforward and calm. I loved her and still do , only it’s different and all I can do is keep a place in my heart for ever for her

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