My mum recently passed away and I feel so lost without her
She had dementia and was in a nursing home and people keep tellinh me she is now at peace and perhaps that might be true, but it still doesn’t take away the hurt I am feeling.
People say I am strong, but they cannot see the hurt that I am feeling and I feel that I need to put on a front.
To make things harder my brother died just over twelve months ago and to be honest I don’t think I really grieved for him at the time, as needed to be there for my mum.
My husband has been there for me, but at the moment I feel I can’t really talk to him.
Thank you for bravely reaching out by starting this thread. I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum and brother, @Splott2000. You might want to connect with @Madge1, who has experienced the loss of her mum and sister and may understand some of what you are going through.
I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Seaneen
My mum died of dementia luckily at home I cared for her for years my sister took her own life 3 weeks before I lost my mum 
I have never been able to grieve for them individually because it was so close it’s difficult sometimes I want my mum other times I want my sister yet people don’t understand it like death is apart of me nobody understands